I Feel Like Disabled People Are Expected To Tolerate And Put Up With Things That Able-bodied People Aren't.

i can't believe i have to fucking say it because i'm an educator so like how is it possible nobody else has said this.

unless a person is actively making materials/etc for children, they do not need to worry about your kid.

your child gets respect as a human. that's it. nobody's private life/artistic endeavors/unrelated interests must be controlled for the sake of your kid.

educators and athletes and artists do not have to live in chastity because your kid might see us on our days off. we do not owe it to your kid to only write poems about bunnies and only sing songs about tying your shoes. i do not care how much a person has given to children, if they are acting as an adult in adult spheres, they are allowed to. they are adults. it is your job as a caregiver to raise your kid and keep them out of adult spheres, not our job to keep ourselves out of those spheres just in case.

guess what! adult role models are going to bars and hooking up and dancing and being adults! this is so they have the mental energy to do all the child-centric things.

"it makes me feel weird to picture them like that!" i don't know how to tell you this but actors aren't actually their roles. the customer-service personality your waitress has is probably not her actual personality. the way teachers interact with students is not the way that they interact with their private lives, and it shouldn't be.

"this tells kids this kind of behavior is okay!" actually it's showing kids a normal and natural progression of a person's life, boundaries, and bodily autonomy. it's showing kids that adults are dynamic human beings. kids already know this. they know there's places they're not allowed and things they don't understand yet. it's just that you have icky feelings because you were raised in a society with black-and-white morality.

celebrities don't owe your children perfection, modesty, sobriety. and you know something? it's way healthier when they don't. "this is a person, who gets up every morning and does their job - but also has adult interests, which you'll learn about later" is way healthier as a role model than "you should be perfect like the curated image of this person and if you're not perfect you should be deeply ashamed."

anyway. idk why "think of the children!!!!" is making a comeback as a popular stance. but to be clear? it's a way of saying "this makes me feel uncomfortable, but i don't know why, and i don't feel like untangling it, so i'll blame you for it and hope you feel guilty about my children."

Dealing With Executive Dysfunction - A Masterpost

The “getting it done in an unconventional way” method.

The “it’s not cheating to do it the easy way” method.

The “fuck what you’re supposed to do” method.

The “get stuff done while you wait” method.

The “you don’t have to do everything at once” method.

The “it doesn’t have to be permanent to be helpful” method.

The “break the task into smaller steps” method.

The “treat yourself like a pet” method.

The “it doesn’t have to be all or nothing” method.

The “put on a persona” method.

The “act like you’re filming a tutorial” method.

The “you don’t have to do it perfectly” method.

The “wait for a trigger” method.

The “do it for your future self” method.

The “might as well” method.

The “when self discipline doesn’t cut it” method.

The “taking care of yourself to take care of your pet” method.

The “make it easy” method.

The “junebugging” method.

The “just show up” method.

The “accept when you need help” method.

The “make it into a game” method.

The “everything worth doing is worth doing poorly” method.

The “trick yourself” method.

The “break it into even smaller steps” method.

The “let go of should” method.

The “your body is an animal you have to take care of” method.

The “fork theory” method.

The “effectivity over aesthetics” method.

Wow, do you ever go onto tumblr every day but completely forget to post about the new things you're crocheting at any point? Because I do. I've been working on a bunch of stuff since the last time I was active on this tumblr! Sometimes I remember to post about it on Instagram and sometimes I don't, but tumblr is way cooler than Instagram anyway - so I'm going to try to remember to post here as well!

This is a cute lil chicken pattern that's available free over at 53stitches.com! I signed up for a lot of conventions this year, the next one is Gold Coast Supanova on April 12th & 13th - these little birbs have been so popular, and I'm glad because they are heckin' fun to make.

I made 12 designs in all (+ an extra highly requested Cockatiel I still need to write up) and I'm trying to add all of my old patterns to the website for free over the next few months, so keep an eye out! Plus making youtube content! So much going on, and yet I don't want to blab about it on social media as per usual 😂

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Dropping this here as a new month is upon us. Probably going to let it run until August just to see how much can be raised. The current goal is for some spending money for artist alley stuff at FanEx Chicago in August because ya girl has been in survival mode since January and needs to do something fun for herself. Anything above that goal will be used for other essentials like food, hotel, gas, etc. As always, donations are never necessary but always appreciated <3 <3

I cannot stress enough how important it is to do silly, frivolous things that serve no other purpose than making you happy.

New in the shop! Kagome and Inuyasha amis 💜 both of these cuties are $60 each + shipping

You've been dead. Interesting. Yet it seems your programming has held up.

Finally finished this drawing of a scene from our D&D game in which the terrifying archfey that half the party is secretly (even from themselves) in service to shows up. Pictured here: Grandmother (aforementioned archfey) and Dagger (my character, undead sorcerer).

My maternal grandmother could crochet.

Nothing complicated. Basic granny squares and double crochet, but she was the one in the family who made blankets for her kids and grandchildren. Dementia hit in her nineties but she still remembered how to make granny squares and made dozens. I asked her for one last blanket but by that point the dementia had taken how to join the squares. They were stacked in piles around the dining room table and when she went into care, into a plastic box for storage.

When she died, I asked for them. By that point I could crochet but didn’t know how to join, and figured, someday, I’d learn.

It’s at least a decade later. I’m the one who makes blankets for my nephews, for my cousin’s children, for pregnant coworkers. Last year I made seven blankets, three for Project Linus, the rest for family and a friend. I can follow crochet charts, filet crochet, do clusters, fans, basic lace, amigurumi.

The world, as is its wont, is on fire. Tonight, I have opened the plastic container for the first time in a decade. I’m sorting them into piles by color. I know now how to look at them and see where her memory slipped or areas I’ll need to repair. There’s no printed pattern but if I need more I have the skills to copy the pattern.

Each square is 5 inches. Blanket size for Project Linus is 40x60. I’ll see how many people I can give her last crochet legacy to.

Hygiene as an Autistic and ADHDer

A.J’s Brain

Happy first Sunday of 2025! Since it's been a chilly week, today's WIP showcase features one of my favorite ice skaters: Yuri Katsuki from Yuri on Ice! He's always a pleasure to make since I get to use my glitter yarn for him! Pattern design by @53stitches

And if you haven't seen my recent Kofi update, you should go check that out here!