Destroy The Idea That Trans People Need To Pick New Names Close To Their Given Names, But Also Don’t

You know what? Fuck you.*goes by joyfriend cause it makes me happy and if you really don't like it cause you think its 'infantilizing' then just don't fucking use it, jesus christ*

nonbinary is a complete gender. you can be just nonbinary. you really don’t have to align yourself any more specifically than that

you don’t have to find the perfect just right word for your experience, you don’t have to parse out what named gender you’re closest to on a spectrum, what subset of nonbinary most closely reflects your truth, weigh your masculinity against your femininity against your androgyny to see what the total comes out to, you don’t have to label your gender by its relation or opposition to the gender you were assigned

all those things are great for exploring your gender & if you can find a home in them more power to you

but you don’t have to. you really can just be nonbinary

any adhd kids out there that loved long (3+ hour) car rides because it gave you an acceptable excuse to stare blankly out at an ever-changing background and listen to music on loop / daydream extensively please raise your hands. i wanna check something

nothing has been more important to my being queer than when i went to my first pride parade, got seperated from my group, had a panic attack about it and was sitting on the side of the road holding a tiny genderfluid flag and freaking out. then this six foot five drag queen in four inch heels appeared from literally nowhere and sat down next to me. i, this scared-shitless trans bi kid at pride for the first time, very nervously told her she looked pretty and i told her my name and that i got lost and didn't feel like i should be at pride and she held my hand and said "oh, honey, everybody deserves to be here, especially you. pride is for everybody who's ever gotten lost, who's been scared of who they are or where they are. you think we never been scared before? pride's for you, honey, because you're scared. you don't have to be proud right now, but you're gonna be one day, honey, i'm sure of it."

i found my group soon after that and i never saw that queen again but to this day i am convinced i met an angel.

so yeah. pride is for you. pride is for all of us.

concept

a beaded curtain, but instead of beads they’re worms on strings

something has gone deeply wrong when "focusing pragmatically on issues you can influence and working to make life better for yourself and your community" is considered an unserious distraction while "endlessly exposing yourself to media about distressing situations you can't control" is considered political engagement

ok. so if people, regardless of their gender, using whatever pronouns they feel comfortable in (lesbians using he/him, gay men using she/her, non binary people using he/she) invalidates trans people who get gender euphoria from people using the proper pronouns because of the way they are gendered for THEM personally, why is this argument not used for the concept of unisex names? if a womans name is henry (for example), are you gonna say she’s invalidating trans men for having a masculine name? are you gonna tell her its HER fault that people will dead name trans men now? are you gonna hold up the same standards you have for pronouns (which were INVENTED to replace peoples names back when only two genders were recognized in eurocentric cultures) for peoples names?  

pronouns are like names. unisex, changeable, and purely exist to refer to someone in the third person. and if you dont use someones name and pronouns properly, youre transphobic. its as simple as that. 

Conservatives accidentally doing this never gets old

happy pride month from your queer knight <3

[image description: a pencil sketch of a knight with long hair on a rearing horse. the knight holds aloft a rainbow pride flag. end image description.]

“what if kids identify with something and it ends up just being a phase-?” good. stop teaching and expecting kids (and adults honestly) to formulate permanent traits and ideas of themselves. everything in life is a phase. that doesn’t make it any less legitimate while you experience it. let people explore themselves and know it’s okay if what you think about yourself changes.