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a beaded curtain, but instead of beads they’re worms on strings

nonbinary is a complete gender. you can be just nonbinary. you really don’t have to align yourself any more specifically than that

you don’t have to find the perfect just right word for your experience, you don’t have to parse out what named gender you’re closest to on a spectrum, what subset of nonbinary most closely reflects your truth, weigh your masculinity against your femininity against your androgyny to see what the total comes out to, you don’t have to label your gender by its relation or opposition to the gender you were assigned

all those things are great for exploring your gender & if you can find a home in them more power to you

but you don’t have to. you really can just be nonbinary

“what if kids identify with something and it ends up just being a phase-?” good. stop teaching and expecting kids (and adults honestly) to formulate permanent traits and ideas of themselves. everything in life is a phase. that doesn’t make it any less legitimate while you experience it. let people explore themselves and know it’s okay if what you think about yourself changes.

destroy the idea that trans people need to pick new names close to their given names, but also don’t make fun of those who do pick names with similar sounds or letters. it’s a comfort thing for some.

hello!! when someone lists their pronouns as having multiple different ones (i.e. he/they, she/they, he/she), it tends to mean that you should switch up the pronouns you use when referring to them, NOT just pick one. 

example: “I gave Theo their gift. He said to tell you thanks." 

you can also do this by varying the pronouns in separate sentences/phrases, if it feels forced trying to use them both at once.  

"Theo loved the gift you gave him!" 

later: "I’ll ask Theo if they want to join us on Zoom tonight for Christmas movies.”

congrats, elliot page, i’m so honored to be sharing in this journey with you 💘

nothing has been more important to my being queer than when i went to my first pride parade, got seperated from my group, had a panic attack about it and was sitting on the side of the road holding a tiny genderfluid flag and freaking out. then this six foot five drag queen in four inch heels appeared from literally nowhere and sat down next to me. i, this scared-shitless trans bi kid at pride for the first time, very nervously told her she looked pretty and i told her my name and that i got lost and didn't feel like i should be at pride and she held my hand and said "oh, honey, everybody deserves to be here, especially you. pride is for everybody who's ever gotten lost, who's been scared of who they are or where they are. you think we never been scared before? pride's for you, honey, because you're scared. you don't have to be proud right now, but you're gonna be one day, honey, i'm sure of it."

i found my group soon after that and i never saw that queen again but to this day i am convinced i met an angel.

so yeah. pride is for you. pride is for all of us.

transness is so beautiful and wonderful i hope every trans person reading knows they are loved

any adhd kids out there that loved long (3+ hour) car rides because it gave you an acceptable excuse to stare blankly out at an ever-changing background and listen to music on loop / daydream extensively please raise your hands. i wanna check something

something has gone deeply wrong when "focusing pragmatically on issues you can influence and working to make life better for yourself and your community" is considered an unserious distraction while "endlessly exposing yourself to media about distressing situations you can't control" is considered political engagement

We need to stop letting people who dont like body hair speak. About anything.