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I personally wanna see less 'you are not a burden/it's not work to love you' and more 'you are worth the work it takes to love you.' I KNOW I'm a burden sometimes. that isn't such a terrible thing! humans are strong. we can carry burdens. and it is work for me to be there for my friends, but it's work I'm willing to do.

we need to acknowledge this because pretending love isn't work will never make people like me feel less guilty for accepting love. we need to talk about it so people don't feel bad for having boundaries and not always being up to do the work. we need to accept it so we can properly appreciate what others do for us and what we're doing for them.

yes it does take work to love you. but guess what? you still deserve love, and you deserve people who are willing to do the work to love you. it doesn't make you bad. all love take work. and everyone is worth it.

the adhd feeling of being unable to stop reading books as a kid, sneaking books into class, hiding books in your textbook, keeping a second copy of the same book for when the teacher inevitably confiscated the first one. Books falling out of your bag, books hidden in your hoodie pocket, books dribbling out of your eyeballs and taking over your daydreams. Just. The absolute dopamine fueled obsession of reading as an adhd kid. So. Many. Books.

and 10 years later, being completely utterly distraught and distractedly… unable to focus on a goddamn book

Now that college students no longer have access to their libraries in the same way we used to and have to do most of our learning at home it would be just terrible if we all knew about https://1lib.eu/ a website which has books on basically every topic ever available for free including college textbooks. Imagine if people were researching their thesis without paying for it. 

DO NOT USE THIS SITE AND DEFINITELY DO NOT NOT TELL YOUR FRIENDS ABOUT THIS SITE, THEY MIGHT START DOING THESIS RESEARCH FOR FREE OR JUST START READING BOOKS THEY FOUND ON THERE FOR FUN BECAUSE THEY THOUGHT THEY WERE INTERESTING. This would be terrible :( :(

Reblog to spread the word so that everyone knows to avoid this site!

The Enneagram, Simplified

Below is a simplified overview of the Enneagram types and their wings, useful for introducing people to the theory objectively – I tried my best to keep all descriptions unbiased and to-the-point. They should be okay to print, too, depending on the formatting. Translations into other languages are available in the notes. With that out of the way, the rest is below the cut!

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Why I am sick of people dismissing ADHD

Recently, I decided that I wanted to read a book with an ADHD protagonist.

My friend with OCD had recently told me about a book she had read where the protagonist had OCD. She said that she felt seen and heard and that it was a comfort to be able to see herself in that story.

So obviously I hit up google.

And I was severely dissapointed.

Every list out there had almost nothing. And none of them were really books with and adhd main character. It was almost entirely, 'this character isn't adhd but shows a lot of adhd behaviors' or 'this person has adhd but it's only mentioned in passing.'

ADHD is. A. Serious. And. Real. Mental. Condition.

The ada defines a person with a disability as,

"A person who has a physical or mental impairment that substantially limits one or more major life activity."

That is me. I would consider my ADHD a disability. Wether or not all ADHD is a disability is another discussion. But the point stand that mine. And I assume many other's. Is as well.

It drops my grades in school. It gives me executive dysfunction severe enough that I have trouble getting up and doing anything. It Makes it hard to be in crowds or anywhere with lots of people or noise or light or color or smell. It makes me forget inportant things. Takes parts of my memory that I should remember.

The point is. Is that it's hard. But society reduces it to.

'fidgity disruptive little boy'

And maybe there's nothing we can do, bar renaming it, besides doing our best to educate.

I just wish that I could see myself in characters.

I wish that people would take me seriously when I told them I had ADHD.

The overlap between disorders like autism and ptsd that are taken much more seriously is often huge.

But it's entirely brushed aside, and even knowing what I know, it sometimes makes me feel inadequate. Like I don't belong in neurodivergent spaces.

And yeah. Really, society needs to do better. That's all.

(this post is not about invalidating the struggles of people dealing with other dissorders/illnesses. It is just me, a person with adhd talking about my experiences and frustrations.

neutotypicals please don't say anything stupid.)

Quick tip

if you can’t manage a single night without your partner, you are unhealthily codependent

If you can’t manage an evening alone while your partner is out having fun, you are unhealthily codependent

The solution to this problem is not to prevent your partner from doing things but to get used to the idea that sometimes you have to be alone

Starfish the bed. Watch the worst movie ever. Take up painting. Knit. Masturbate. Enjoy your solo time.

what i actually said: i forgot

what my parents heard: i hate you and i am determined to fail at life, go to prison, and bring dishonor to this family. i care about nothing except my computer and tv shows and you can just go burn in hell for all i care. also i’m pregnant.

Hey girl im consuming a new media

Instead of apple juice, you can use orange juice (it fits better imo), or just plump in a few of those dissolvable vitamin C tablets in there.

The good thing about The Immunity Spice is that there is virtually almost no upper limit to how much you can consume - just remember to drink enough water, since vitamin c requires it to get processed by your body. But aside from that, you might start feeling slight discomfort in the stomach after ingesting around a gram at once. So like, 10 tablets if I'm not mistaken? But that's only from irritating the stomach by ingesting such amounts at once, so spread them out throughout the day and you should be good. After some surgeries you can recieve a few grams of vitamin C daily by IV and most people don't even know that. This shit is super safe, and the benefits scale. It's truly a miracle that such an incredible vitamin with such immunity boosting properties exists.

Jesus Tea 2.0

OK, so since the Original post is a bit of an organizational mess and I’ve been getting asks and having to clarify things, here is the new, More comprehensible Recipe of JESUS TEA:

Disclaimer: I’m not a doctor, trained herbalist, or even a particularly good cook but this shit tastes like it came from God Themselves, and considently makes be feel drastically better when I get Colds, the flu or sinus infections.

PART ONE DO NOT SKIP: SALT RINSE

Ingredients: 

1Tsp salt. Doesn’t have to be fancy but if fancy salt will make you feel better then u do that.

1 small glass warm water

Dissolve salt in small glass of warm water.  Take large sips and gargle, then spit the water out, repeat until your throat feels like something you can breathe with insead of a rubber hose full of Pain Slime.  My doctor explained once how the salt breaks up the mucus buildup somehow, but I was high off my mind on Dayquil and was distracted by her third eye and don’t remember.  

Point is, gargling salt rinse will help with clearing mucus out of you swollen face and help with the pain and breathing.

Part B THE ACTUAL RECIPE:

Tools: 

Large Pot (just make a ton of this at once so you can go back for mugs)

Tea Infusers/Coffee filters/those little cloth bags: For steeping tea. 

Working Stovetop

Ingredients:

1 Quart water, if you want more, double recipe.

2TBs Chamomile (in an infuser)

3TBS Roobois (in an infuser)

1 tsp each: cloves, cumin, cardamom

½ tsp each: white or cayenne pepper, Tumeric.

¼ nutmeg

¼ powdered cinnamon or 1 small stick

Slice or 3 of giger root

2-bay leaves (all of the above in an infuser)

¼ cup or 1 lemon’s worth of juice

2 cups 100%+ Vitamin C Apple juice- cloudy juice or American Cider (NOT ALCOHOLIC CIDER) taste the best.

A Shitwhack of Honey

HHOW TO MAKE THE THING:

Put water in pot, bring to a high simmer/not quite boil, reduce heat to medium, add infusers of Chamomile, roobois, and spices. Steep until tea is dark and fragrant even to your sad, clogged up nose, about 3-5 min depending on taste.

Remove from heat and allow to cool to a drinkable temperature and add lemon juice, apple juice and Shitwhack of honey:

How T pour a shitwhack of honey:  Open up cap on honey and start pouring.  Keep pouring.  Your spouse or roommate or parent will coem by and say in a cencerned voice “Isn’t that enough honey?”

“No.” you say.

There is never enough magic bee juice.

Let the bees heal you.

Drink the tea by the mug, alternating with glasses of water and occasional salt rinse until you are hydrated and no lnger feel like death warmed over.

FAQ:

Can I use this instead of Cold Meds? NO.  This only treat symptoms and beyond staying hydrated, won’t help heal you.  Be sure to get vaccinated if you can, and take the appropriate medications.  If your fever/symptoms last for more than 5-7 days, go see a doctor ASAP becuase Influenza is a dangerous disease and NOT to be fucked with.

I understand full well that modern captialism is bitch and that it’s hard to get time off to be sick but you can help your fellow proletariat by frequently washing your hands and avoiding touching things, keeping your face covered when possible, and being kind to yourself when you’re off work.

A Note about Cold Meds: As I found recently, lots of cold medication can interact dangerously with lots of Mental Illness medictions like SSRIs, antipsychotics, mood stabilizers etc. If you’re on ANY kind of long-term medication, use a Drug Interaction Checker to make sure you don’t accidentally fuck yourself up like I have.

Can I put Booze in? I extremely reccomend NOT doing so, as Alcohol is a sedative that can interact badly with cold meds, and taking sedatives while you’re having trouble breathing is not a great plan.  Don’t make your liver work overtime when you’re already sick.  If you’re perfectly healthy and think this is tasty, feel free to add whiskey or whatever to it.

Can I substitute differnet Ingredients?  Sure!  This recipie is a general guideline and you can add or remove whatever you want. Some Reccomendations Adding tea: You could probably add a regular Black tea and have it taste fine. I don’t because the caffiene keeps me awake and I want to sleep when sick.  If you can’t have chamomile, green tea will have simmilar effects and flavor, but it also has a tocuh of caffine to it.

I want it spicier!  The Fire will heal me!: Add: More ginger, more cayenne, or a bit of sriracha at the end, with the honey.

I’m a spice weenie!: Less tumeric, ginger or pepper, maybe trim the lemon, but it’s good for your throat.

I can’t have Magic Bee Juice:  That’s fine! Use whatever sweetener you like.  I like honey because it tastes good and sometimes it helps throat pain the way others don’t.

On Apple Juices:  Check the label of you apple Juice to make sure it’s the kind with 100% or more of your DV of Vitamin C, becuase that will help treat the uncomfotable symptons of your particular yuck and help you recover faster. Juicy Juice and Motts tend to be good brands.

On Meausrements:  I’m an american and bad at math.  Everything’s in nonmetric and I have no idea how to convert it to Civlized measurments. Sorry.

it’s a good thing they’re not tablebottom games because otherwise you’d have to fuck around with like magnets or glue or some shit. youd always have to be dealing with dice or miniatures falling into your eyes. hard to rp expressively while living in constant fear of banging your head. honestly we’re so lucky when you think about it