Warsan Shire, From "For Women Who Are Difficult To Love"

૮ ˶ᵔ ᵕ ᵔ˶ ა 07/02/24

today i can safely say im grateful for everything and everyone that has come my way ♡ i was speaking to my friends a whole lot more today and felt the love all around, i love them so much !! i also worked up the courage to go to lesson today which is something i dont do often, my tiredness and anxiety gets the best of me but im glad i went today, it made me realise that maybe i do enjoy the things that i do, i cant wait for many more blessings to come my way, in fact havent they already? i'm def working on putting a diary entry up everyday 😭 ive got this !

however i know my days arent always sunshine and rainbows, i struggled a lot with unwanted thoughts today.. detachment does not come easy right now but i know it will be easy tommorow. let go and let god is something i now live by.

scissor me timbers‼️

it actually really doesn’t matter at all and everything will be okay forever

Fuck all the islamic activists like Khalid Beydoun and Fatima Bhutto constantly posting about muslim m@les dying in west or p@lestine but staying silent on the oppression women are facing in islamic countries. Taliban just passed a new law banning Afghan women from speaking outside of their homes or even speaking to non-muslim women. But no word from these "peaceful religion" protesters! The entire world should follow the instructions of these fucktards, boycott whoever they want, unfollow the celebrities they hate otherwise we are labelled as islamophobes. But they can choose to zip their mouths and mock women suffering at the hands of islamic terrorists. Well, i am not boycotting or unfollowing anybody these muslims want me to as long as they don’t protest for the afghan women with the same energy and rage. You either accept that your religion is the most misogynistic one and harming women and speak up on it, or you keep getting silent treatment that you deserve . Call me an islamophobe i am not even denying that i am one!

I love you samosas. I love you empanadas. I love you pasties. I love you dumplings. I love you pirozhkis. I love you savory food in a convenient little carb purse.

How to "make space" for your feelings:

- expect them to be there rather than minimizing them or pretending you're not feeling anything. Expect yourself to have emotions and feelings and reactions. Admit to yourself when you are hurt, admit to yourself when you are sad, angry, heartbroken. You're a human being! You are allowed to have feelings! Even AI bots have feelings these days!! So why can't you???

- talk it out in a safe space. Even if you have to say it out loud to yourself by yourself. Saying it out loud not only makes it real but it also helps us process in a different way, because now you have proof and evidence of the things that are bothering you.

- notice when you're dismissing yourself ("this is dumb, I shouldn't feel that way.") and say this instead: "you belong here." All of your emotions have a purpose. They're trying to tell you something. For instance, feeling jealous tells us when we're feeling left out, less than, competitive with others, insecure about our own worth, and probably telling you a past wound that is still open & needing your attention. By allowing yourself to acknowledge this jealous feeling exists, you can pinpoint the exact reason and bring it out for your own introspection & attention. But you can't do this if youre stuck telling yourself you're a bad person for feeling this way, or too unaware of yourself to even notice that jealousy is what you're feeling in the first place. That is why step one is to expect yourself to have feelings and reactions in the first place, so you can talk about them and move them in safer & healthier ways.

- Drop the need for perfectionism & expect this to be a process. You're not gonna be able to change this overnight, so don't expect yourself to. All of your emotions are welcomed here, even and especially the negative ones, even and especially when you inevitably make mistakes, even and especially if you're self hating and persecuting. Has telling yourself to "stop feeling this way" ever worked? So why the hell are we still trying that method?

- yes, that even means your thoughts and feelings of wanting to unalive yourself. You've been through hard things and you're carrying that load all by yourself. It makes sense that this is how you feel. In a world that keeps us down, you've got to learn to accept all of you exactly as you are. Your unaliving feelings belong here too. They're telling you something, they're telling you you've had enough and that something needs to change because it's literally zapped your life force.

- notice your thinking patterns. Are you beating yourself up all the time? Are you avoiding something? Is there a deeper reason? Yes, it is that deep. This is your life after all. Why live if it's not about you? Is there any way you can make this easier on yourself?

- Establish yourself a safety zone & network to unmask and ask for help & reassurance. "Making space" means to expect & allow yourself to be vulnerable. You still get to choose how, where, when, & with whom you want to be vulnerable with. You can do this by first finding spaces that make space for you. Therapy & online venting spaces are a great place to start.

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Hope this helps ❤️‍🩹

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baroque freshwater pearls

3d is not proof of anything

You can tell me that you have no money, and I will ask to you, "how do you know you don't have money?" and maybe you will tell me "I just checked my bank account, I have no money".

But are you checking your bank account right now? No, you are not. Then you are imagining it, assuming that you don't have it.

Knowing Imagination creates reality, and that what you assume and identify as real is reflected, why you sustain limitations and lack in your mind?

You can Imagine and assume anything that you want. Do you want to be poor? I bet you not. Then free yourself in your mind to FEEL what you WANT to feel. REMOVE THE OUTER WORLD CIRCUMSTANCES. You are not forced to unknowlegde what you see with your mortal eyes as real, you can ignore and rewrite the history as you want it to be.

Now let me tell you, the whole world is imagined. Nothing you see with your mortal eyes is a fixed fact.

"If I can make something, I can unmake it. Whatever I can create, I can uncreate." NG

How can I create and uncreate? I dismiss what my senses tell me and I decide to be aware of what I want, knowing it is mine, I experience it. I cannot fail.

Don't take your circumstances to the mind, they are not real. You don't need to fight circumstances, that's not your business, they will be removed as you assume the end.

So if you see something in your world that you don't like, leave the world alone and change Self. Self is everything you identify yourself as being or having!

The confirmation that you have what you believe you have is in your Imagination, it NEVER was in the outerworld. You were always assuming that you had things, now you just assume you have things that you WANT.

If you still believe in what the senses shows you, you are not yet conviced that Imagination creates reality, not the other way around. When you believe it, you will know you are the master of your fate.

Don't sleep again, never forget this truth.

Tokyo (2008) by Willem Alink on Flickr.