Nothing I’ve read has changed me more than “you do people a favor by accepting their help” like I repeat this constantly to so many people because it’s true!!! People like to feel useful, they like to feel kind, they like to feel like they have an ability to impact people’s lives so just let them!! Not everything is a thing to be owed back — accept people’s kindness without making a competition out of it
if somebody held their arms out to me and softly told me “c’mere” i would simply break down
the fact that I have to be in the “right headspace” to do even the simplest tasks. absolutely humiliating
(sighing loudly because of my enormous desires)
We are captives of what we love, what we desire, and what we are.
- Mahmoud Darwish.
“I think one of the saddest things is when two people really get to know each other: their secrets, their fears, their favourite things, what they love, what they hate, literally everything, and then they go back to being strangers. It’s like you have to walk past them and pretend like you never knew them, never even talked to them before, when really, you know everything about them.”
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why is my mom telling our neighbors all our business right now?
When I was a kid, the "Oh my god, you got so big!" comment from grown-ups used to really annoy me, because it felt broadly infantilising. But now, as an adult myself, I realise it had very little to do with me, and almost everything to do with said grown-up feeling suddenly attacked by the passage of time, yet not wanting to blurt out "shit, fuck, I just pissed away like four years of my life without noticing, then, huh?" in front of an 8-year-old.
make the OC with acne!! make the OC with that one weird scar you’re self conscious about!! make the OC with your lopsided ears, your crooked jaw, your uneven nose, your keratosis pilaris, your stretchmarks and your imperfections. make the OC you’re scared to make because it’s ‘self indulgent’ or ‘romanticizing your own body’.
make the OC. give yourself that love.