Can We Please Stop With The “being Bi Is Liking All Women And Three Men” Stereotypes? You Guys Try

Gay USA (1977) dir. Arthur J. Bressan Jr.

If you think “cishet invaders pretending to be LGBT” is a real problem that justifies discouraging people from reaching out to their local LGBTQ+ communities, we can’t be friends.

Sad but true.

a list of pronouns that are valid!

all of them

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What someone says: I have romantic feelings for you

What I hear: I have decided, based on nothing that has to do with you, that you are going to solve all of my problems and make me happy forever, and when you inevitably can't do that I am going to be hurt and disappointed and maybe even mad at you

Roses are red,

New love is tender,

You don’t need dysphoria to be transgender

okay but like. Queerphobia is queerphobia. Disrespecting microlabels/MOGAI and not welcoming them in the community accomplishes nothing. It’s just queerphobic. The arguments you use against them have been used against you, but by appealing to the monogamous cishet society, you assimilate. They see you as “one of the good ones”, not as fully equal. You are not paving the way for acceptance of queer identities; you are paving the way for toleration of “understandable” and cishet appealing queer identities. Identities where it’s possible for them to pretend you’re not very queer at all.

The arguments of “that doesn’t exist, you can’t just do that, you can’t be a boy or girl and look like that, this is just an attention seeking liar or abomination” towards nonbinary people in general, nonbinary microlabels, and gnc trans people has been and will be used against you. You’re not being completely accepted by society, you are blending in. You are just as queer as the people you mock, and they are just as queer as you.

But because they don’t “make sense” or “aren’t normal” or are “weird” or don’t clearly and visibly conform to cishet ideals, they are easier to turn the flame on. That flame is still there. That burning disgust and hatred of open queerness is still there. But because you are like them, because you pass and are “normal enough” to them, you have some ability to redirect the heat.

You have the privledge of passing, of being understandable to what they consider normal and acceptable, and that acceptance and toleration is at risk if you’re lumped in with clearly non-passing or conforming queer people, so you join in on their oppression. You say, “don’t hate me, hate them, I’m the normal one” when you used to not be. You bear burn scars and don’t want any more, so you push the flame to people that are easier to burn.

That heat and hatred is not gone, it’s just not directly pointing at you anymore. If someone were to use those arguments against you, which they have, you’d be hated just the same, which you were. You are not abolishing the flame, you are just redirecting it.

MOGAI, xenogenders, neopronouns, microlabels, all of them are in our community, and they always have been. Their ability to be specific and happy with their labels because they have the comfort and space to openly explore their gender and sexuality in much more depth, is not a disgrace to what we’ve built, but something to be celebrated. They feel safe enough to and have a community for terms to describe themselves as much as they want, and that is far from a bad thing. Discovery is a long and difficult process. Whatever they find and whatever they try, if it stays or not, is valid. What helps them is valid. Their queerness is valid.

All you are doing is separating yourself from that community, our community, so that you are not burned with them.

yes- an aroace demiboy

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i hope straight trans people know they’re amazing 🥺🥺 it has to be grating to endure all the Straight Jokes when you don’t share the same privilege as cis straight people

straight trans people are wonderful, your attraction and love is wonderful, your relationships are wonderful, and being straight doesn’t make you less of a part of this community

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What trans jokes are:

“I’m abab. Assigned Bastard at birth”

“What’s your gender?” “yeah”

“What’s in your pants?” “a nickel and some lint”

What transphobia masked as ‘jokes’ is:

“Lmao look at that man wearing a dress”

“My pronouns are fuck/fuckself”

“Hey lets talk about this trans person’s sex life and genitals for funsies”

Every single tucute caricature

Know the fuckin’ difference.

how will asexuals enrich the lgbt community with their inclusion?

Okay, so let’s get this through your thick, exclusionist skull. (I’ll use small words)

How does anyone “enrich” the LGBT+ community?

Enrich, according to the dictionary, means a number of things.

1. to supply with riches, wealth, abundant or valuable possessions, etc.

In this way we bring the same thing you do: Some of us are able to donate money and resources to things like the Trevor Project or our local LGBT+ offices and their outreach programs.

2. to supply with abundance of anything desirable, such as knowledge.

Hi! I collect lists of websites and books and groups that portray and/or teach about different LGBT+ identities so that I can give them out to people who have questions. There are a number of us (asexual, aromantic, and agender individuals) who do similar things in order to enrich our communities.

3. to add greater value or significance to.

More voices = louder communal voice. You want people to listen to you about issues and struggles that our community faces? You’re gonna need more voices.

4. to adorn or decorate.

There are a good number of us who are artists. We design your posters and t-shirts and murals. We don’t just create art for our own identity, but yours, too.

5. to make finer in quality, as by supplying desirable elements or ingredients.

Every person has something good in them that they can bring to the table. By denying a whole group of people, you are denying their ideas and their resources and their personalities. You are denying all desirable elements that could build your community.

Now, this is slightly off-topic but it connects: The rest of the LGBT+ community (including you aphobes) talk a lot about how being gay isn’t just about sex… And yet you exclude us because some of us don’t like sex.

Kinda seems like you’re just shooting yourself in the foot there…