You Are Afraid Of Success

When you rest in quietness and your image of yourself fades, and your image of the world fades, and your ideas of others fade, what’s left? A brightness, a radiant emptiness that is simply what you are.

-Adyashanti

i love your last post so much. Everytime i find myself being too harsh, I like to remind myself of how greek gods, for example, were represented. They were seen as gods, but they were still showed as having flaws, as making mistakes, as having negative feelings. That didn't make them any less of gods to their human devotees' eyes, so why would we having those things makes any less gods to our own eyes? Damn it, even the abrahamic god who is seen as perfect regretted the great flood and proceeded with the great flood knowing they would regret it later on. If all these religious gods are allowed mistakes and regrets, so are we.

EXACTLYYYY EVERYONE READ THIS EVERYOME READ THIS AND ABSORB IT IN THEIR HEAD. SCREENSHOT. PRINT. HANG IT AS A POSTER IN YOUR BEDROOM.

For confused people from loa background -

You wanting to manifest something stems from a THOUGHT of not having it, so you want it.

You having something - is a THOUGHT

You not having it - is a THOUGHT

Your mind, body, ego, this world, people, buildings, plants , etc - THOUGHTS

Everything exists in you. You are awareness taking the shape of this body, dreaming of this reality.

There's nothing to manifest. There's nothing real here. You are a tiny dust of this massive desert called awareness.

Yes.

Q: Why do we not realize our unlimited being?

Lester: We have the conviction that we can't do it. If we were not convinced that we couldn't do it, we could do it quickly, even in a moment. How long should it take one with all knowledge, all power to recognize that he is all knowledge, all power? No time! And each one of us is that all powerful, all knowing individual. It seems so hard, almost impossible, only because we won't do it. That's why it is so difficult, - we won't do it!

You hold the concept that you are a body, rather than that you are an infinite, unlimited being. As long as you hold to that concept, you're stuck with it. You don't look at the other, the opposite side of you, which is unlimited.

Q: Well then, could you say that the only thing between us and realization is a thought, really?

Lester: Yes, that's it. It is a thought that is the culmination of much thought. If you would just examine how your thoughts flow after I tell you that you are unlimited, you would discover that immediately you dive right into the thoughts of being a limited body. When I say that each one of you is infinite, unlimited, right now, - at that moment you get a feel of it.

Are you aware of the feel that you get as I say it? Right now, everyone here is infinite, unlimited, omnipotent, omniscient, and omnipresent. When I say that to you, for that instant you feel it, but the next moment you think you are the body, and immediately take your full attention off what you really are and put it on the concept of being only the body with all its affiliations.

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How many of you women go about every day trying to discover that you're a female? None. Who of you men go about every day trying to discover that you are a male? Why don't you? Why don’t you people want to be told that? Because you accept it without any doubt whatsoever. But you do not accept that you are infinite. Why not? Why play the game of limitation and be miserable? Why? I'm asking you' the questions now instead of you asking me.

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All right now, if you will be that "I," and only that "I,” then everything will turn out to be like a dream. And when you see it full, a dream that never really was.

CHAPTER ONE :

a formal introduction to the law of assumption.

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୨୧ disclaimer: for anyone who’s entirely new to this law, throw everything you’ve ever known about the world out the window. i guarantee that leaving this post is going to leave you shocked, free, enlightened, maybe all three at once. enjoy ;)

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i. what is manifestation?

MANIFESTATION.

a word that has been on the minds of humanity since the dawn or time. the meer utter of the word can either cause a twinkle to appear in your eye, or a massive eye roll. looking back, what do you think when the word “manifestation” comes to mind?

is it some made up, magical thing that only the most powerful people can accomplish doing? & it’s only because they “made it happen” via endless years of hard work?

something that comes to pass after you “raise your vibrations” thanks to the guidance of the rose quartzes in your room, pages filled to the brim of written words in your gratitude journal & your latest ingestion of moon water?

the result of something because despite the fact that you’ve accepted that “ “you're the god of your reality”? it lead you to affirm 100k affirmations within the next 72 hours, through your tears. & even though you only got breadcrumbs of what you actually wanted, it was all WORTH IT, DAMN IT.

hey,

hey, 

lemme tell you a little shared secret,

whoever told you that was wrong. 

they had no idea what they were talking about. & by misfortune you believed it. 

now, lemme tell you what manifestation actually is:

manifestation is whatever reality you experience via whoever you assume you’re being.

that’s it. no, really! there’s no catch, or anything else deeper than that. 

that’s how the world works! that’s how we work. it’s the thing that keeps this little, silly thing we call society running. 

don’t believe me? speedrun through your entire life, right now.

that time you got dumped by someone you thought was the love of your life & left you for that one person you were worried about? you assumed that you got cheated on.

that time you failed that test despite the fact that you studied every single day for the past month? you assumed that you’re a terrible student.

that time you always got complimented & later found out it was out of pity? you assumed that you were ugly. 

you see a pattern here? it all came down to YOU. not your sp, not your questionable public education system, it was all YOU. you were the only person who accepted & internalized those things, despite what the world showed you. you didn’t make anything happen, you were just going through the (unfortunate) reality whatever state you accepted. 

🎀 note: just want to make this very, very clear: if you were hurt or abused, it was not your fault. prior to this post, you didn’t know the law of assumption was even a THING, so no, you didn’t manifest that experience. that burden lies on whoever did that to you. please understand that.

now that you’ve come to this massive epiphany, don’t panic! you can still flip your life around, all you have to do is take what i say seriously & apply it. 

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ii. the truth about imagination.

unlike what you’ve been told for ages, imagination isn’t fake!

in order to experience the life that you want, you HAVE TO internalize this for the rest of your journey: imagination is the only, true reality. the contents you’re currently experiencing physically is just a result of whatever you’ve accepted as fact within it. it’s impossible to experience anything outside of that 

EVERYTHING STARTS & ENDS IN IMAGINATION BECAUSE IT’S THE ONLY THING THAT EVER SHAPED THIS WORLD. 

every single occurrence in your life is just you experiencing what you’ve accepted as fact in imagination. nothing more, nothing less. 

also, imagination is not visualizing. imagining is the action of forming new ideas, concepts or images that aren’t present to the physical senses. this is why you have the ability to experience things that appear to be reality despite the fact that it’s not actually happening outside of you.

“but what about the 3d?” about that, the 4d & the 3d are one. one cannot exist without the other. they were never separate to begin with. how? because the reason you’re aware of your 3d in the first place is because you accepted it as real in imagination first. 

you see how imagination is the blueprint for your whole experience? you’ve always lived in imagination and operated from it before you were even aware of what truly created your life.

“well jay, we can’t live in imagination forever i want my desire in the 3d NOW 🤬🤬!!”

hey remember when you finally got your desires, but all of a sudden they faded away or started “reverting” back to how things were, & you started spiraling? wondering how this could even happen despite the fact that “you did everything right?”.  plot twist: it was because you never accepted your desire as a done fact. you were so dead set on changing what was outside of you, instead of what you needed to change within. 

the 3d never will fulfill you. it’s not your life, or your reality. it’s just a dimension in which imagination is expressed. think of the 3d as clay, despite the fact that its material stays the same, it can morph into whatever you can imagine. your 3d will always follow your 4d, it’s the only thing it can do. as long as you keep seeing your 3d as something outside of you, you’re going to stay in a cycle of manic micromanagement of your thoughts & emotions. making self sabotage your ultimate downfall. 

the 3d will change on its own the second you accept a new truth. even if you don’t see it with your physical eyes, it doesn't matter. when it comes to the 3d, your goal isn’t to change it or ignore it. it's in your face 24/7, ofc you can't ignore that. you’re supposed to not let it have the last word. you understand you do not deserve to live your life via what the outer world says about you. you have always had the FIRST & FINAL word, & deserve to experience that. the only thing that matters is what you’ve accepted as fact & walk in the conviction of it being done.  

you need to come to peace with the fact that even though imagination is the only cause of reality, you can never change the 3d if you don’t change imagination first. your imagination is not a machine, you can't expect it to spit out whatever you want the second you think of it. if you know that your 3d is WITHIN your imagination, & imagination is the only thing that needs to change, why are you mad at the 3d for not changing if you haven’t changed ANYTHING about who YOU are in IMAGINATION??

brace yourself, this is going to sound extremely corny & cliche. many have reported vomiting rainbows after hearing this, but the inside is really what matters. 

how many times have you heard of people who have a perfect life but they never feel satisfied with having it, despite literally having EVERYTHING the want?? IT’S BECAUSE THEY HAVEN’T ACCEPTED THAT WHAT THEY HAVE IS REALLY THEIRS TO BEGIN WITH. 

changing the 3d was never, ever your goal. it starts changing automatically the second you assume a new state, making your new experience come your way, so don’t worry about it. even though you CAN manifest how you’ll receive your desire, that is not your responsibility. 

if you truly want to change your life, please understand that this is your one, & ONLY goal: become aware of a desire being yours in imagination & accept it as your reality.

that is all you need to do. just assume that it is done, and confidently walk in that conviction.

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iii. who are you, really?

you are pure consciousness, aka I AM. you’re never tied to a state, they’re just labels. hence why switching a state is the easiest thing in the world. remove any & all labels you have attached to you currently, & what’s the only thing left?

I AM.

🎀 note: self = i am, i have = pure consciousness can be used interchangeably. it’s the same thing, y’all.

you are the only operant power who has the ability to change what goes after I AM.

I AM is always in a present tense, it’s always a declaration of current awareness.

the only thing that needs to be changed if you want to experience what you desire is self.

for example, you want to manifest being with your sp. you can affirm on a daily basis for hours on end about how they’re yours, but if your I AM stays intact (I AM still manifesting my sp), the only thing you’re going to experience is being in a state of limbo with hot & cold behavior from your sp to accompany it. 

as i established earlier, it’s impossible to experience anything outside of imagination. anything you do outside of your I AM is never going to make any change in imagination. you need to feel that you are who you want to be in order to successfully manifest. 

“jay we don’t have to feel emotions to manifest. emotions don’t manifest.”

feeling / feel = the confident acceptance of knowing that your desire is a present fact.

you are allowed to be emotional, acknowledge that your 3d sucks, and just let yourself be deflated. i’m not saying that you should ignore that. however, you must bounce back to feeling the wish fulfilled. never let your 3d have the last word. 

the only thing you need to do to change a state is to just change what goes after I AM & accept it. don’t reason with it, don’t reason into it, don’t look for proof 0.3 seconds after changing it. trust that it's already done and walk in that conviction.

for some of you, it’ll feel weird or uncomfortable at first, & you might be super hyper aware of it. but, as long as you keep persisting (dwelling) in that new state, it’ll just become natural. 

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iv. breaking down the law. 

alright, now we’re getting into the GOOD shit. 

what is the law of assumption? how can we work with it?

it’s a universal law in which, an assumption though false, if persisted in, will harden into fact.

so, let’s break this down:

an assumption = what you accept to be true about yourself. 

“well, ACKTUALLY 🤓 ☝🏾, that doesn’t make any sense because according to the twitter thread i just read, it’s a thing IN GENERAL that you accept to be true without proof. it’s not necessary to make it about you.”

oh, okay. if that’s the case then how come you only received little to nothing of what you wanted for the past 4 years despite the fact that you were doing “everything right"?

yeah that’s what i thought. 

now, we know by now that who we’re being in imagination is what shapes our reality. it’s all about SELF. 

no matter how many times you affirm that you have big, doe eyes, an hourglass figure & a bmw is currently residing in your garage, if you don’t change self, nothing in your reality will change.

back to the sp example, let’s say, you have commitment issues (like the majority of humanity). you want to make sure your sp has eyes on you and you only. what do you think is the correct approach to solve this internal problem?

assume that you are in a secure relationship with a loyal partner. 

assume that your sp only has eyes for you & will physically vomit if they look at another human being. 

if you answered a., congratulations on actually paying attention to what i was saying. 

if you answered b., congratulations on not losing your sanity with how many times you’ve committed this error. 

notice how i said,  “what do you think is the correct approach to solve this internal problem?”. you need to change self, not your sp. “jay, free will isn't a thing, right?”. yes, and no. whatever you assume about anyone, they only operate freely according to the role you gave to them in imagination. remember when you used to assume someone in your class was an asshole, & then they just happened to operate as one by dogging on you for no reason? you didn’t assume that they’ll do that specifically, but it happened because their behavior falls into the role you assigned to them. 

people aren’t puppets. you can’t control how they’ll act 24/7 or what they should do 24/7. because a. that directs your attention to controlling the 3d which you’re not supposed to do, & not to mention, you’re just straight up treating them as your property lol. no matter how hard you try to make them do something in the 3d, it’s gonna drive you insane because you’re not changing self. thus, explaining the lack of change in your 3d. 

i am dating my sp = ✔ sp is my partner = 🚫 i have a loyal, loving partner = ✔ sp is obsessed with me = 🚫

neverrrrr give your energy towards changing whatever is outside of you, always prioritize changing self!

though false = despite what the 3d is currently showing you. 

this one is self-explanatory. it doesn’t matter what the 3d shows you, keep being persistent in the fact that you already have what you want. remember, what you feel to be true will triumph your physical senses. 

if persisted in, will harden into fact = returning to of your desired state until you confidently feel your desire to be a fact. 

contrary to popular belief, persisting isn’t affirming on loop. it’s continuing being aware of the fact that you already have what you want. 

despite you feeling super sad, it doesn’t strip you of your identity. you just don't stop being you everytime you feel like shit. that's dumb, lol. whatever you’re doing in the 3d, unless you allow it, can never strip you of who you’ve accepted to be in imagination.

do you think rihanna is out here suppressing all of her negative emotions in fear that her entire legacy will crumble because she let a tear slip? no! 

every state you keep being aware of (returning to) is what manifests. 

if you’re going back to dwell in a state so much to the point where you can confidently accept it as fact, that’s the experience that’ll be expressed. 

it doesn’t matter if you’re ignoring whatever you're currently accepting, affirming against it isn’t enough. self is the only thing that needs changing. not your neural pathways, or your "subconscious". you literally need to direct your awareness to what you want to feel. that's it!

the only job you need to fulfill is to keep persisting in your desire until you accept it as done. 

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v. final thoughts + reminders!

take this information & actually apply it if you wish to work with this law to its fullest potential. reading about it all day, every day isn’t going to help you change. even if you’re reading source, what’s the point if you’re not putting it into practice?

so, as this series continues, please take what i say seriously & practice it. i believe in you, so you should yourself a favor and believe in yourself. 

💭 reminders!

imagination will always be the only casual power. everything you're experiencing is just a result of imagination and what you've accepted as done within it. there's no outersource aside from you! tap into your power and use it to the fullest!

time & circumstances do not matter! the second you shift your state, the 3d will instantly match it. everything can (& will!) change in an instant. 

who you’re being in imagination now is the only thing that matters. your reality is only shaped by that, anyway. 

never settle. practice brazen impudence. you already have what you want in imagination. never take no for an answer. you have the final word, not the 3d. 

when in distress, turn to imagination. need confirmation? always turn within. want to experience your desire? always turn within. 3d got you stressed out? always turn within it. inner fulfillment above everything! do it because you can and because it makes you feel better. with this knowledge, why go back to feeling miserable when you don't have to?

always go to the end. be honest, do you really want to affirm for the next hour to get a text from some guy? clearly not. you want that wholesome, fairy-tale romance that'll make every k-drama cower in shame. you want the end result, not the in-between. next time you have a desire, jump to the end and claim it as done!

fall in love with your new state. have fun with your imagination. i mean, you are going back to it consistently, you might as well make it fun every time you return, right? do whatever you want in there, and accept it as done when you're satisfied!

your only job is to keep being aware of creation being finished. you're not creating your desired from the ground up, you're just becoming aware of the finished product. keep doing so until you can't deny it anymore and accept it as done. nothing more, nothing less. 

your desire is a solid guarantee! as long as you accept it as done, there’s literally nothing that can get in your way to prevent it from happening! 

prioritize yourself. even though manifestation sounds great, you can’t (consciously) revolve your whole life around it. do what you gotta do in the 3d, don't neglect it in hopes of something happening. have fun, relax, LIVE A LITTLE. your acceptance has you covered, your desire will unfold in the best way possible. but for now, be aware that your desire is a present fact & done. 

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and with all that being said, chapter one of my new series is finally done! yay! also, i've always been the one to not force whatever i'm sharing down people's throats. you can either take it, or leave it. just don't go onto a burner to cuss me out in hopes of raising my blood pressure, it's not gonna work. if you have any questions left after this post, i'll link @edwardartsupplyhands 's channel here! he is the one who inspired me to make my own series on the law too! (after i disappeared for months). you can also go onto his reddit page if you don't get what neville's saying, lol. chapter two will be out soon! promise! until then, log off and apply. you won't regret it! ;)

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can you stop intellectualising everytime something 'bad' happens?

When unpleasant things happen in life, in an effort to understand it and find peace, we (our egos) often either try to find reason and understand why something happened/is so or immediately jump to conclusions and label it, often linking it to our identity like "oh it's because I am _____" or "it's because I did/thought/felt _____ which caused this, I shouldn't have done that!" or "This always happens to me ugh!!!" yet I find this habit ends up causing more harm than good and it is this self-identification that then ends up causing further spiralling and a pattern of similar events later in the future. - 4dkellysworld

maybe, it's all just happening. all you can do is deal with the problem or move on. you can leave things as they are and move on

thinking thoughts about the problem is not helping you, is it? so what do you have to lose if you stop thinking about it?

Fear is your roadblock. You're afraid that if you drop the body — you'll stop existing. You're afraid that if you drop your problem — the problem won't get fixed and you'll regret not having tried to control the situation. When you finally surrender to the realisation that things only exist as long as you are conscious of them, the idea of problems will become alien to you. - realisophie

please watch this. you are all making yourself insane and spiraling because you make everything about yourself.

ego is a bunch of memories held together by attachment. ego is a thought.

so you are relating everything to a memory. you are having thoughts, and are identifying as the mind, so you get swept along with them. and sometimes you think you're feelings are at fault too!

why? this is torture. please stop

if you're confused on where to start, then start by detaching from the past and future. stop relating every mishap or great day to some thing that you did 2 weeks ago. there's only now.

No need to identify with what happened yesterday or may happen tomorrow. Stand upright simply as you are today. -Nisargadatta Maharaj

just try and see what would happen if you stopped taking on the burden of the WORLD.

just stop taking it all on. aren't you tired. so please rest. be silent.

"how am i supposed to do all of egos activities??"

no one said to stop physically doing anything. it's a mental detachment that we're talking about.

do what you need to do. stay in the present moment. take things one step at a time.

it is hard detaching. but you won't get anywhere if you do not have basic mindfulness to see what you are doing to yourself right now

People try so hard to get rid of their negative behaviors and thoughts, and it doesn't work, or it only works for a short time. I didn't let go of my negative thoughts; I questioned them, and then they let go of me, and so did my addictions and depression. - Byron Katie

“How little he knows himself, how he takes the most absurd statements about himself for Holy truth. He’s told that he is the body, was born, will die, has parents, duties; learns to like what others like and fear what others fear. Totally a creature of heredity and Society, he lives by memory and acts by habits. Ignorant of himself and his true interests, he pursues false aims and is always frustrated. His life and death are meaningless and painful, and there seems to be no way out.”

— Sri Nisaragadatta Maharaj, I am That (pg 432)

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We think that we are our mind/body (identity) and we try desperately to get away from "it" - that leads to questions like "How do I change my awareness?". By society, we're taught to make effort, try harder, do this, do that. But the funny thing is, what's required is "no" effort - the watercourse way - no effort from the side of the mind. Because "trying to change" is the equivalent of trying to fight a shadow. The identity is a shadow, it is not us. Analyze your mind briefly, and you will find that it is nothing but a byproduct of societal conditioning, peer opinions, books, movies, whatever content you've most willingly consumed. The mind is incessantly thinking 24/7, it never stops. It drags you into its each and every thought. It's not really you thinking, you are being thought. "I want to change my awareness" - who does? The mind? It is not even you. You merely believe it to be yourself, and let yourself get dragged away by the thought. How do we stop this? There's only one way: surrender. Stop fighting. You cannot fight a shadow, you will only look like a fool. When you surrender, you go beyond and you re-realize yourself. Surrender. Surrender to however you are, whatever state you are in. Surrender to whatever is going, whether you believe it to be good or bad, it does not matter, because it is the mind putting these labels on it. Stop chasing, because there is nothing that you need to achieve. Not even awareness, because you already are. There is no need to "go beyond the mind" because you already are beyond it. Do not try to intellectually understand this, just accept it, because it is truth. Your blood is flowing now, but your mind is not controlling that. What is? Awareness. You are already aware. So leave it. You are perfect as you are, perfection, godliness, divine.

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q&a

a q and a of most of my asks

basics

where do i start?

what do ppl who follow ND have as a "goal"?

is it necessary to read the book?

could you simplify non-duality in a few sentences?

how do i observe ego?

how do i practice letting my thoughts and emotions pass throughout the day?

i feel like i keep going back to my human body-self-mind. how do i stop this?

how do i just apply?

do i have to quiet the mind?

how is life a dream and also self?

if we choose what to take real or not, is ego truly real?

how to stop battling the ego?

who's the one thinking? Who's the thinker?

thoughts that come up in the mind and thoughts that don't

how to not get involved with the ego?

other questions

i am still trying to understand the concept of space-time.

does continuity not exist?

does remembering the past make it current?

what is imagination?

is detachment important?

what is self inquiry?

why would consciousness express in this body? why does manifestation exist? why do we still suffer?

ego worries

how would one approach in the dualistic perspective of being rejected, the need for validation, not feeling chosen?

i have to give up?? but i have a life and responsibilities?

how do i deal with the worst time of my life? / i've put my life on hold (tw: health problems, sa, death)

my ego lives such a boring life

my ego, how to make it stop calling me delusional? i have anxiety

dissociation and nondualism

how do things happen?

even if thoughts aren't me, they still limit me (+ how to view everything as self?)

progress

how do I remove the urge of trying to let this click?

I don’t actually really know how to apply any ND knowledge

i get really confused why they say stop trying to realize that you are oneness

i'm trying so hard and nothing is happening!

it feels like i'm just forcing myself... / self inquiry

am i supposed to just keep observing this character till what? what should i do now?

desires / choosing a different character

materialisation

how do we "choose a different character?"

is this not like loa?

using nondualism as a way to get something material?

i need to manifest instantly please help

i don't understand what to do about desires

how do i fix a big problem?

what is the point of being God if there is no desiring?

sp question

void state question

i don’t understand how when i imagine something is already happening?

i have to do something i don't want to do...

can i wake up in a better place?

changing the past

how to just choose what i want?

I sincerely apologise for writing this. i feel really conflicted right now. I have been getting suicidal thoughts lately because of my circumstances. Sometime I feel like I don’t even want to exist. I came to non-duality from loa. I spent 3 years trying to “manifest” a peaceful life. Trying to escape from my circumstances and wake up to a completely different life.

I make myself promises to like “manifest my desired life my the end this month” or “to stop making the same mistake” but I end up breaking them. I felt like I over consumed alot and now I don’t know where to begin or what to detach from. I tell myself that I’ll throw my phone aside and start applying but then I get caught up in my problems again and it’s just a cycle on repeat.

I have to say I’m quite ashamed of myself. Not being able to accomplish anything in my life and disappointing those around me despite knowing the law of assumption and now non-duality.

This is probably the most stupidest thing I have ever asked but could you simply non-duality in a a few sentences? I feel like I have come to the point where I can’t even trust myself to stop over consuming and wishing for change. Thank you.

you might benefit from this and this.

i really would like you to read this!

the body-mind, the "I" you think you are, i'll call them sam!

give up trying to manifest. give up trying to change the world with sam's thoughts and feelings, its torture.

here's the main point:

simple mindfulness is what gurus have asked of us. not convincing, denial or forcing. its observing. 

observe the habit of 'you'. you take the "I" to be the body-mind, sam. sam is a habit, and is sustained through attachment and aversions. drop them.

all you need to fix is your wrong identification. let go of sam and all their stories.

if you find yourself forcing, suppressing, or trying to get rid of sam (something that you don't do), then remember this: god is already perfect. the answer is to surrender.

there's no image or role to maintain. you can just be.

here's a more in depth reminder.

there's so many words for Self: Absolute Perfection, Bliss, Infinite Being, Supreme Reality. i want you to remember I AM. I AM is complete and whole, alone. its just beingness. just as it is. before the world and sam, you are conscious. before wanting, you are conscious.

nondualism's goal is letting go of all the concepts that stop you from seeing Self.

the body-mind is a thought. its an idea. you are already detached from sam. but you don't see it bcs you are identified with them right now. you are attached to your character, and we want to release all those attachments.

"the identity is a shadow. it is not us. analyze your mind briefly, and you will find that is nothing but a byproduct of societal conditioning, peer opinions, books, movies, whatever content you've most willingly consumed." - luvcompass

the mind is just a bunch of thoughts, feelings and memories. are you a thought? are you a story? are you a memory? are you a feeling?

sam is. but you are not sam.

sam doesn't want sam and all the stories anymore (likely because you think you are stuck as sam). but sam never was. sam is an idea, a story. they are a thought in the mind. because you are identified as sam, you see sam. without your awareness on sam, sam wouldn't be.

Unless they understand who they really are, that Vanessa (sam) is a habit and nothing more - that nothing has existence outside of awareness, including her, that awareness assigns reality and is the only reality - they're always going to struggle to control something and get frustrated they don't see what they think they're aware of. What you're aware of is what you're being. You can't be aware of being something new while also being Vanessa. [source]

The ego is an activity, its not innate, its FORMED.

"Ego (sam) is not an entity. It is an activity. It is an optional activity of identifying itself with a fragment that Consciousness is free to make or not, from moment to moment." [source]

and by habit of taking the "I" to be sam, it continues.

focus on respond vs react. start catching yourself out when you say 'i am ...', start asking questions to yourself abt who 'i' is. start watching your thoughts. learn how to feel your emotions when they come up, don't run away from them or they will continue to come up until you deal with it. this is a process of allowing.

"I make myself promises to like “manifest my desired life my the end this month” or “to stop making the same mistake” but I end up breaking them."

i want you to accept now. you are sam, so you see sam. stop chasing a future that will never come. there's only ever the present moment.

To be identified to your mind is to be trapped in time: the compulsion to live almost exclusively through memory and anticipation. This creates an endless preoccupation with past and future and an unwillingness to honor and acknowledge the present moment and allow it to be. The compulsion arises because the past gives you an identity and the future holds the promise of salvation, of fulfillment in whatever form. Both are illusions. — Eckhart Tolle

what would happen if you stopped using the past as a reference? what would happen if you stopped projecting past stories into the future? what would happen if you stopped thinking of a tomorrow?

"i felt like I over consumed alot and now I don’t know where to begin or what to detach from."

start with "who am i?". anything you can outgrow? not you. anything you can observe ? not you. in the absense of it, you don't disappear? not you. it changes and you don't disappear? not you.

how do you know you are sam except by your belief that you are sam?

"I have to say I’m quite ashamed of myself. Not being able to accomplish anything in my life and disappointing those around me despite knowing the law of assumption and now non-duality."

read this. also, there are no others. you are seeing yourSelf play out.

let go of the shame, regret and guilt. read the linked post, and watch the source from the first quote, it'll help. i also want you to watch this.

give yourself compassion. give yourself space to grow. sam is a random person just like anybody else, so why chastise them for stuff that just happens?

sam cannot do anything in the first place. (what is sam gonna do to change the infinte? why would the infinite need changing anyway?)

you are putting pressure on sam to change the world, but really Self orchestrates all. sam is just another creation of Self. this entire world is Self's expression. give up intellectualising what sam did, maybe it has nothing to do with you and it just happened?

sam is not a problem or mistake!

sam is already part of infinity and exists whether sam likes it or not. you are unconditionally accepted already as perfection or else you wouldn't be here.

“All you need is already within you, only you must approach your self with reverence and love. Self-condemnation and self-distrust are grievous errors.” - nisargadatta maharaj

i'm sorry i wrote too much, but i hope this helps! please be safe!