my current fav youtube channels
wildheartwaves - black women self accountability + analysis
pidgin doll - fashion sketching and doll composition
vintagecoochie - black girl cultural analysis
ruthy - bw beauty and makeup
chokoladka - psychological femininity and spirituality
fashion channel - vintage fashion shows
iconicallyiconic - deep dives into girly movies, brands and tv shows
darling dollz - doll releases and rankings
pretty boy xo - stripper vlogs and content
beauty and beyond - compilations of beautymaxxing content
r p - self help for women
earth rabbit - how to feel pretty
han ୨♡୧ - cute and calming doll + sanrio content
chrissie - content for bw mental reframing
kelsey the ballerina - minimalism and self love
msreadtheroom - mental level up content
style intellect - fashion analysis
lelegalliano - bw beauty content
sabrina lilliane - dolliest content
tea renee - hair and makeup tutorials
karine aloude - bw personality analysis
vogue - beauty secrets
codenamechanel - hypergamy content
just michelle - skin and beauty content
jaz turner - feminine development
the style and beauty doctor - skincare content
leah alexander - beauty and level up content
simonesimmo - mental level up
vinertria - beauty and fashion
bellazzi ent. - beauty utilization and self respect
becca watson - productive vlogs, tips
daiz - productive vlogs
dear peachie - makeup, beauty
feminine renaissance - femininity, tips
free지아 - beauty, motivation, vlogs
giorgina juanita - hauls, beauty, vlogs
isabella grace - beauty, vlogs, routines
jasmine le - beauty, tips, vlogs
lavendaire - tips, journaling, meditations
leeor alexandra - manifesting, tips, spirituality
lisa alexandra - manifesting, tips
malama life - minimalism, slow living
mikayla mags - productivity, vlogs
mira daisy - manifesting, productivity, vlogs
muchelleb - productivity, mindset, habits
nimeshaa - manifesting, productivity, self care
oanh - productivity, vlogs, health/wellness
rebecca jay - productivity vlogs, health/wellness
rowena tsai - self care, mindset, habits
sabrina lilliane - cutesy hauls, fashion, vlogs
sami clarke - lifestyle, health, vlogs, workouts
sandy diana bang - mindset, productivity, vlogs
saranghoe - productivity vlogs
simonesimmo/simonesquared/simonesquared 2.0 - mindset, manifesting, tips
tam kaur - mindset, glow up, lifestyle, habits
thewizardliz - mindset, glow up, lifestyle
Here's a step-by-step guide to get you started on your journey towards ultimate girliness ;) You'll be flaunting your femininity in no time, and trust me, the world will be so grateful for it!
Slay the Fashion Game First things first, let's talk clothes! Embrace your inner fashionista and experiment with colors, patterns, and styles that make you feel absolutely divine. Lace, florals, and pastels are so totally girly, and why not throw in some accessories like a cute necklace or a pair of statement earrings? Pinterest is a great place to get cute outfit inspo to build your dream style!
Pamper Yo'self Nothing says "girly" like a good ol' fashioned pampering session. Grab your favorite face mask, run a bubble bath, and light some scented candles. Oh, and don't forget to paint those nails a fabulous shade of pink (or any color that makes you feel like the princess you are). Self-care is so important, and when you feel good, you look good.
Find Your Signature Scent Every girl needs a signature scent that says, "Hello world, I'm fabulous!" Head to your local beauty store and find a perfume that embodies your fabulousness. Floral, fruity, or spicy, there's a scent out there that will make you feel like you're walking on a cloud of girliness. Just a spritz or two, and you'll be turning heads left and right.
Channel Your Inner Cher Horowitz You know what's totally girly? Confidence. Nothing is more attractive than a girl who owns her awesomeness. Channel your inner Cher from Clueless and strut your stuff like the world is your runway. And if anyone tries to bring you down, just remember, "Ugh, as if!"
Surround Yourself with Other Fabulous Females Lastly, surround yourself with other amazing, girly gals who inspire and support you. After all, what's more girly than having a fabulous girl squad? Plan a girls' night in, a shopping spree, or a brunch date, and celebrate your collective girl power.
Now go out there and slayy xx
digital declutter: unfollow people I don't interact with and follow people and follow people who inspire me
environment declutter: clean bedroom/bathroom/kitchen and throw out what I don't need
finances: start being financially literate and use my income and expense tracker
reflection of 2023: what went well? what didn't?
create daily and weekly systems to implement next year to achieve my goals (using cue, response, reward system)
vision board for 2024: what do I hope to achieve and how will I do that?
what are my energy givers and energy takers? what can I do next year to decrease energy takers and focus on my energy givers?
set goals and take steps to schedule time to achieve that
Something I struggle with is actually starting my journey. I have so many areas that I want to upgrade in and I'm starting to feel overwhelmed. Do you have any advice on that? Thank you!
how to organize your level up journey 🤍
1. take out a piece of paper (or type but it’s better to write things down on paper), and write down each life area (or the ones that you want to change). these include (but not limited to): and make sure you leave a lot of room under each one, probably taking one piece of paper for every life area instead of just using one sheet of paper.
school
work/career
finances
romantic relationships
family
friendships
religion/spirituality
health/fitness
physical appearance
recreational/bucket list
lifestyle
2. leave space under whichever “life areas” you want to level up in and then write your goals. i suggest 1-3 goals under each, but no more than 5. you don’t want to overwhelm yourself even more. an example of this could look like:
1. physical appearance
- i want to grow longer hair
- i want to clear my skin
- i want to master the perfect makeup look
3. under each one of your goals, write 1-2 habits you could do everyday to work on that goal. you can write more habits if you want to, but again, the goal is to not overwhelm you anymore than you already feel. an example of this could look like:
1. physical appearance
- i want to grow longer hair
• sleep on satin pillow case
• heatless hairstyles daily
4. then start working on those habits, slowly adding a few more into your routine whenever you feel comfortable. don’t get discouraged if you slip a lot during the beginning; that’s completely normal. just keep working on being consistent and it’ll eventually become second nature. then you add more habits and eventually, habits turn into successes.
try my method and see if this works for you. 🫶🏼 get my ebook here
Sunshine Happiness Spell
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A quick and easy spell to send happiness & good fortune to yourself or another.
tiny piece of dried orange peel (i find it best if it had been previously dried in the sun as an offering😉), for happiness
permanent marker, for writing
citrine & clear quartz (or any sun crystals)
representation of recipient (can be a photo or anything of significance that identifies who is receiving this joy)
lighter
cauldron / fireproof tray
sigil of good-fortune
Arrange an altar dedicated to the recipient & the Sun.
Inscribe the recipient’s initials on one side of the orange peel, and a good-fortune sigil on the inside.
Proceed to safely burn the orange peel. Ask the powerful Father Sun to bring happiness and luck to this person. Be excited for them! Allow the photo of the recipient pass through the smoke. Send Loving Kindness.
After the orange peel is completely burned, smile up at the Sun, and know that He is ready to send that energy to the recipient as soon as they next touch His light.
So that’s it! Easy-peasy, right? This was such a joyful spell to work on, and I love how quickly this one works.
Cheers,
Sage☀️ 🏹
GENERAL ♡
romanticising your morning
being that girl- back to school.
making your room to be intentional
improving your life- the little aspects(collab with @honeytonedhottie)
how to start setting boundaries
making your phone to be intentional
MINDSET ♡
how to stop overthinking
detachment
processing your emotions without suppressing them
how to stop comparing yourself to others
healing your inner child
how to feel satisfied/grateful in life
how to stop self sabotaging + doubting
how to begin healing
FASHION/BEAUTY ♡
wardrobe essentials
growing out lashes + eyebrows
prettier hierarchy — image
EDUCATION/ACADEMICS ♡
being smart makes you prettier
creating + using flash cards
PRODUCTIVITY ♡
How to salvage a half-wasted day
journaling guide
notion page ideas
how to be productive after school
Establishing a routine
Increasing your attention span
HEALTH ♡
optimising sleep + maximising beauty
lowering your cortisol levels
cycle syncing beginner guide
cycle syncing: food masterlist
romanticising exercise
regulating your mood while on your period
Relieving fatigue
( A collab with thee lovely lele @bloombabydoll )
If you want to reinvent and rebrand yourself, or just continue to make positive improvements in 2024, the first thing is to evaluate your current year.
Reflect on how things went for you. Was there continuous growth? Were there many difficult times? Did you discover anything major about yourself and so on. Try to summarise your year in (a) paragraph(s) at least.
Oversee your goals. Which ones you didn’t, did achieve, difficult ones, easy ones and the impacts it had on your life.
Compare your dream girl then and now. Is your visualisation of your life currently different to the one you have now and why?
List any major losses or successes you’ve had in your life, and how they have helped you or why it matters to you.
This evaluation can be as detailed or simple as you like, but as long as you have a decent outline of your year.
To prepare for 2024, you want to know what you want life to be like in 2024. Something realistic to a point, but still is a growth journey.
Think of something that you can associate with 2024. This can be a word, a symbol, art, a song, a book, a movie, a place, or even just all of these things. When you think about your goals and your journey, this is your theme. This is something that should relate to your goals or your dream girl somehow.
For me, I chose a word and a song. My word is growth because, for me, 2023 was a year for just being able to shed my old self which I did achieve however I just felt there wasn’t much growth as an actual person and not just in my environment.
For my song, it is Mayflowers by Proleters and Taskrok. This song is the epitome of what I would imagine, is the most polished mindset. I would say perfect, but having a perfect mindset is near impossible. I want to have a mindset glow up because I’ve just been hard on myself lately which has caused my confidence to plummet.
Before we get into the fun part of the preparation stage, we have to do some organisation in our life. I want you to take a look at your daily lifestyle and your habits, and be completely unashamed about this.
Then categorise these habits into two sections; Leave and Leap. Leave habits are habits that you are leaving behind in 2023, leap habits are habits that are leaping into 2024 with you.
Any habits that are self-destructive, addictive or generally harmful are leave habits. Beneficial habits and self-building are leaping with you into the new year.
I want you to do the same for people in your life, all environments (school, work, online etc) and anything else you believe needs to be sorted out.
This works better if you can reason with yourself why it is a leaping or leaving habit, but don’t try to convince yourself a bad habit is good or vice versa.
Now, I want you to document an honest paragraph about who you are right now. List your bad and good habits, your strengths and weaknesses and your behaviours. This one requires a bit more detail.
Then, write a paragraph about who you will be in 2024, your dream girl. List her habits, lifestyle, behaviours, mindset, strengths and anything else extra. I’ll explain later but do not include materialistic desires in this your dream girl. Once again, this one also requires details.
Stemming from those paragraphs, I want you to create specific and achievable goals. SMART goals are best, but I want to introduce you to how I set goals.
I divide my year into quarters. For each 3 months, I have 3-5 goals for those months. Usually, it’s one from each area of my life. Then, I break down these goals.
Why do I want to do this goal - For motivation and commitment.
How it’ll benefit me - For the sake of improvement.
How can I involve myself in this goal - To achieve your goal.
I prefer this method because it is a lot simpler for me, as I am just a young girl and my bigger goals are more in the future in which I’ll utilise SMART goals.
To create good goals; Make sure they align with your current values and life principles first. Try to avoid creating goals that you have just taken from the internet. Those goals just aren’t it and you most likely won’t follow through with it.
Be specific. Don’t say you want to eat more healthily, instead say you want to include (a certain group of veggies/fruits) in your diet and reduce the intake of ( food/drink).
E.g using eating healthy example
I want to eat healthy -> I want to start including foods that boost my immunity system and support my skin while reducing those that have the opposite effect.
Then break down those quarterly goals into monthly, weekly and daily goals. Make these habits that you can establish in your lifestyle and have a way in which you can refer back to your progress.
EXAMPLE GOAL BREAKDOWN
Quarterly Goal - Read 6 books.
Monthly Goal - Finish 2 books.
Weekly Goal - Be or near half way of one book.
Daily Goal - 20 minutes of reading per day.
AREAS TO SET GOALS IN YOUR LIFE
Academics
Spiritual
Fitness/sport
Health and wellbeing
Mental health
Personal life
Relationships
Hobbies and recreation
Now for the best part- vision boards! Collect all of your favourite images that embody your quarters or the whole year, then put them in one place where you can see them regularly!
Some ideas are a scrapbook, Pinterest boards, mood boards, playlists etc.
Choose your theme; It can be your healthy girl era, your academic come back or whatever you want. You can have more than two btw.
Use quotes! Then actually say them in your daily life as a way to shift your mindset to reflect said quote.
Include inspirational people. It doesn't even have to be a millionaire or a very well established person, it could be your friends or someone on the internet.
Be imaginative. Your vision board doesn't have to realistic in my opinion, as the whole point of it to me is that viewing it daily and considering it to be part of your life one day allows for you to open up to those opportunities.
I feel obligated to make this a separate section. This section is practically tangible objects that you want.
However, when choosing this said object that you want, mindfully think about why you want that thing specifically.
It doesn’t have to be meaningful, but as long as each thing on that list has got a purpose to you, and will serve you, I think it’s all good!
If you want, you can definitely start implementing habits before January. However, I believe that as long as you go into 2024 at least knowing who you want to be and shedding away any limiting beliefs, you’ll be fine.
Make sure to incorporate some self care rituals into your daily life as well✨
To end this, I hope everyone has a very merry Christmas! And that 2024 they will achieve to close that gap with their current selves and their dream girl selves! 💖🙏