Here's a step-by-step guide to get you started on your journey towards ultimate girliness ;) You'll be flaunting your femininity in no time, and trust me, the world will be so grateful for it!
Slay the Fashion Game First things first, let's talk clothes! Embrace your inner fashionista and experiment with colors, patterns, and styles that make you feel absolutely divine. Lace, florals, and pastels are so totally girly, and why not throw in some accessories like a cute necklace or a pair of statement earrings? Pinterest is a great place to get cute outfit inspo to build your dream style!
Pamper Yo'self Nothing says "girly" like a good ol' fashioned pampering session. Grab your favorite face mask, run a bubble bath, and light some scented candles. Oh, and don't forget to paint those nails a fabulous shade of pink (or any color that makes you feel like the princess you are). Self-care is so important, and when you feel good, you look good.
Find Your Signature Scent Every girl needs a signature scent that says, "Hello world, I'm fabulous!" Head to your local beauty store and find a perfume that embodies your fabulousness. Floral, fruity, or spicy, there's a scent out there that will make you feel like you're walking on a cloud of girliness. Just a spritz or two, and you'll be turning heads left and right.
Channel Your Inner Cher Horowitz You know what's totally girly? Confidence. Nothing is more attractive than a girl who owns her awesomeness. Channel your inner Cher from Clueless and strut your stuff like the world is your runway. And if anyone tries to bring you down, just remember, "Ugh, as if!"
Surround Yourself with Other Fabulous Females Lastly, surround yourself with other amazing, girly gals who inspire and support you. After all, what's more girly than having a fabulous girl squad? Plan a girls' night in, a shopping spree, or a brunch date, and celebrate your collective girl power.
Now go out there and slayy xx
ׂ╰┈➤ Start cooking more of your meals at home. Incorporate more healthy ingredients in your meals and/or disguise them in delicious recipes!
ׂ╰┈➤ Start working out regularly, at the gym, in the park or just in your bedroom. Any form of activity counts!!
ׂ╰┈➤ Start drinking more water!!!
ׂ╰┈➤ Establish an easy morning and evening routine that you can do everyday
ׂ╰┈➤ Never skip skincare or basic hygiene like showering or brushing your teeth
ׂ╰┈➤ Fix your sleep schedule and sleep 7-9 hours a night
ׂ╰┈➤ Choose to spend less time on your phone and more time outside/with family and friends.
ׂ╰┈➤ Uninstall harmful social media apps
ׂ╰┈➤ Start being productive everyday – read, journal or practice your hobbies more often!
ׂ╰┈➤ Take yourself on solo dates! Everybody underestimates this so much, but I promise it makes such a difference in your mood. Go to the spa or salon, take sunset walks, read at the corner cafe while enjoying a warm pastry!!
ׂ╰┈➤ Start romanticising your life! Candle lit dinners with your family, spa and rest days, buying flowers or that cute dress or doing face masks while reading at night could make such a great difference!!
ׂ╰┈➤ Start complimenting people more often and saying kind things to strangers!
ׂ╰┈➤ Clear out your wardrobe! Find your desired style and get some cute key pieces that go well with anything. Donate old clothes that you aren't wearing anymore!
ׂ╰┈➤ Of course, looks ARE NOT everything in life, but you should try to look as put together as possible in every situation. Use clothes and hairstyles that fit you well, wear perfume, jewelery and accessories, try to have well maintained nails and skin
ׂ╰┈➤ Become well organised by always preparing for a situation ahead of time
ׂ╰┈➤ Always experiment with cooking or baking, with your make up/hairstyle, and try out new places or hobbies too!
ׂ╰┈➤ Stop worrying about other people and their opinions. Cut out all the negativity in your life, they might be ruining your progress!
ׂ╰┈➤ Try to become more confident each day, being confident makes the biggest difference in your life of them all!
ׂ╰┈➤ Stop being so hard on yourself! Life is not a race so please remember to enjoy every moment and take it easy and slowly. Results will not be visible immediately but change is on the way and you know it too. Good luck!! <33
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If you want to reinvent and rebrand yourself, or just continue to make positive improvements in 2024, the first thing is to evaluate your current year.
Reflect on how things went for you. Was there continuous growth? Were there many difficult times? Did you discover anything major about yourself and so on. Try to summarise your year in (a) paragraph(s) at least.
Oversee your goals. Which ones you didn’t, did achieve, difficult ones, easy ones and the impacts it had on your life.
Compare your dream girl then and now. Is your visualisation of your life currently different to the one you have now and why?
List any major losses or successes you’ve had in your life, and how they have helped you or why it matters to you.
This evaluation can be as detailed or simple as you like, but as long as you have a decent outline of your year.
To prepare for 2024, you want to know what you want life to be like in 2024. Something realistic to a point, but still is a growth journey.
Think of something that you can associate with 2024. This can be a word, a symbol, art, a song, a book, a movie, a place, or even just all of these things. When you think about your goals and your journey, this is your theme. This is something that should relate to your goals or your dream girl somehow.
For me, I chose a word and a song. My word is growth because, for me, 2023 was a year for just being able to shed my old self which I did achieve however I just felt there wasn’t much growth as an actual person and not just in my environment.
For my song, it is Mayflowers by Proleters and Taskrok. This song is the epitome of what I would imagine, is the most polished mindset. I would say perfect, but having a perfect mindset is near impossible. I want to have a mindset glow up because I’ve just been hard on myself lately which has caused my confidence to plummet.
Before we get into the fun part of the preparation stage, we have to do some organisation in our life. I want you to take a look at your daily lifestyle and your habits, and be completely unashamed about this.
Then categorise these habits into two sections; Leave and Leap. Leave habits are habits that you are leaving behind in 2023, leap habits are habits that are leaping into 2024 with you.
Any habits that are self-destructive, addictive or generally harmful are leave habits. Beneficial habits and self-building are leaping with you into the new year.
I want you to do the same for people in your life, all environments (school, work, online etc) and anything else you believe needs to be sorted out.
This works better if you can reason with yourself why it is a leaping or leaving habit, but don’t try to convince yourself a bad habit is good or vice versa.
Now, I want you to document an honest paragraph about who you are right now. List your bad and good habits, your strengths and weaknesses and your behaviours. This one requires a bit more detail.
Then, write a paragraph about who you will be in 2024, your dream girl. List her habits, lifestyle, behaviours, mindset, strengths and anything else extra. I’ll explain later but do not include materialistic desires in this your dream girl. Once again, this one also requires details.
Stemming from those paragraphs, I want you to create specific and achievable goals. SMART goals are best, but I want to introduce you to how I set goals.
I divide my year into quarters. For each 3 months, I have 3-5 goals for those months. Usually, it’s one from each area of my life. Then, I break down these goals.
Why do I want to do this goal - For motivation and commitment.
How it’ll benefit me - For the sake of improvement.
How can I involve myself in this goal - To achieve your goal.
I prefer this method because it is a lot simpler for me, as I am just a young girl and my bigger goals are more in the future in which I’ll utilise SMART goals.
To create good goals; Make sure they align with your current values and life principles first. Try to avoid creating goals that you have just taken from the internet. Those goals just aren’t it and you most likely won’t follow through with it.
Be specific. Don’t say you want to eat more healthily, instead say you want to include (a certain group of veggies/fruits) in your diet and reduce the intake of ( food/drink).
E.g using eating healthy example
I want to eat healthy -> I want to start including foods that boost my immunity system and support my skin while reducing those that have the opposite effect.
Then break down those quarterly goals into monthly, weekly and daily goals. Make these habits that you can establish in your lifestyle and have a way in which you can refer back to your progress.
EXAMPLE GOAL BREAKDOWN
Quarterly Goal - Read 6 books.
Monthly Goal - Finish 2 books.
Weekly Goal - Be or near half way of one book.
Daily Goal - 20 minutes of reading per day.
AREAS TO SET GOALS IN YOUR LIFE
Academics
Spiritual
Fitness/sport
Health and wellbeing
Mental health
Personal life
Relationships
Hobbies and recreation
Now for the best part- vision boards! Collect all of your favourite images that embody your quarters or the whole year, then put them in one place where you can see them regularly!
Some ideas are a scrapbook, Pinterest boards, mood boards, playlists etc.
Choose your theme; It can be your healthy girl era, your academic come back or whatever you want. You can have more than two btw.
Use quotes! Then actually say them in your daily life as a way to shift your mindset to reflect said quote.
Include inspirational people. It doesn't even have to be a millionaire or a very well established person, it could be your friends or someone on the internet.
Be imaginative. Your vision board doesn't have to realistic in my opinion, as the whole point of it to me is that viewing it daily and considering it to be part of your life one day allows for you to open up to those opportunities.
I feel obligated to make this a separate section. This section is practically tangible objects that you want.
However, when choosing this said object that you want, mindfully think about why you want that thing specifically.
It doesn’t have to be meaningful, but as long as each thing on that list has got a purpose to you, and will serve you, I think it’s all good!
If you want, you can definitely start implementing habits before January. However, I believe that as long as you go into 2024 at least knowing who you want to be and shedding away any limiting beliefs, you’ll be fine.
Make sure to incorporate some self care rituals into your daily life as well✨
To end this, I hope everyone has a very merry Christmas! And that 2024 they will achieve to close that gap with their current selves and their dream girl selves! 💖🙏
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How to get your life together : a guide
1) Make a list of goals you want to achieve, if you don’t you’re going to forget about them. It could be yearly goals, it could be monthly goals or both (even better). Just write them down and put them somewhere you can see them every day. Also don’t forget about the smart rule :
Specific (simple, sensible, significant).
Measurable (meaningful, motivating).
Achievable (agreed, attainable).
Relevant (reasonable, realistic and resourced, results-based).
Time bound (time-based, time limited, time/cost limited, timely, time-sensitive).
2) Choose habits which will lead your towards your goals. You want to be a the top of your class ? Start by actually completing your homework, assignments and by paying attention in class. You want strong and healthy hair ? Stop using heat every day and start a hair care routine. Yes, it is that simple trust me.
3) Starts adding those habits to your daily life and be realistic. For exemple, if you want to achieve your dream body start exercising and eating healthy. You want to keep those achievable and enjoyable : if you used to never step away from your couch for too long, you are not going to exercise 5 times a week right away. Start small, start with maybe twice a week and then add more when you feel ready.
4) Stop making excuses. You cannot reach your goals if you find excuses to stay home and do nothing such as « I will start on Monday » or « I am a bit tired today so I’ll just rest ». Don’t, if you really are motivated you will start right now and won’t skip your workout. The less you do, the less you wanna do.
5) Remind yourself why you wanna reach those goals and motivate yourself. You cannot solely rely on motivation, you have to create it yourself. Make vision boards of you dream life and ask yourself why you want to get out of your actual situation. If you already feel miserable and lazy in your every day life it won’t hurt to at least try, right ?
6) Enjoy the steps. That one is the most important. If you feel like completing a workout is torture, you will last a week or two tops. If doing your skin care or a daily walk feels boring, you will stop doing it. Try making those interesting by watching a movie or listening a podcast at the same time, find a workout you’re actually able to enjoy.
7) Finally : enjoy your results. If you’ve kept up the work for months, even weeks you will see them. People will start praising you about your hair, your skin… You will be able to see those changes yourself when you look at your body or at your grades. You will also be more confident because when you decide to put in the work and get results, you will be so proud of yourself I can assure you that.
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Journaling Ideas!!
— the 2025 princess guide:
I have a lot to accomplish this year, so lets plan it all out. ♡
Physical ! ⋆ - move my body at least once everyday. (yoga, pilates, lifting). - listen to my body when it comes to what i eat. - get into the habit of walking places! - try new recipes & new foods. - continue to take care of my skin & hair. - invest in clothes and items that make me feel confident. - drink at least three bottles of water a day.
Intellectual ! ⋆ - read at least one book a month. - focus on schoolwork (study or homework every week night). - continue to learn new things by choice. - take the time to read articles and learn of other views. - remember that the media you intake is part of what shapes your mind.
Social ! ⋆ - be kind to others, smile and say hi. - do what you can help if someone needs something. - if you are invited, say yes. - live. ♡
Self-Care ! ⋆ - take time when you need to. - keep praying, He is there for you. - be gentle and understanding to yourself. - cut out negativity from your life. - stay positive, but remember it is okay to cry. - embrace your feelings, do not force them away.
Non-negotiable Daily Habits ! ⋆ - make my bed every morning. - brush my teeth twice a day. - shower every day.
Goals ! ⋆ - pass the early college test. - take Spanish II online. - end sophomore year with all A's (and B's). - begin early college junior year. - join a club next school year. - keep up with academic and personal goals! - be a different version of my self in 365 days from now.
[CONSTANTLY BEING UPDATED]
GIVE YOURSELF SOME LOVE THIS NEW YEAR.
WHAT DO YOU WANT IN LIFE?
PLANNING: STEPS TO REACH YOUR DREAMS
FINALLY CLOSING THE GAP BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR HIGHEST SELF IN 2024
MAKING REALISTIC NEW YEARS GOALS
MIRROR WORK + AFFIRMATIONS
MAKING 2024 A PROGRESSIVE YEAR
LIVE YOUR LIFE SO THAT OLD YOU CAN BE PROUD
LEARN TO DREAM LIKE A KID AGAIN
HOW TO LIVE BY MARSLOWS HIERARCHY OF NEEDS
PEOPLE DON'T WANT YOU TO SUCCEED
STOP THINKING ABOUT WHAT OTHERS MIGHT BE THINKING
CREATING CELEBRITY ENERGY AND STAR QUALITY
JEALOUSY AND ENVY ARE JOY KILLERS
DON'T BE THE LOSER, BE THE WINNER
LIFE DOESN'T CREATE ITSELF
BEATING TEMPTATIONS AND PROCRASTINATION
I LEARNT TO SHUT MY MOUTH AND YOU SHOULD TO
DON'T LET THOSE TYPES OF PEOPLE GET IN THE WAY OF YOUR SUCCESS
Summer girly
Glow-up tips 🌸☀️
Things I’m trying to do everyday to become THAT girl for/in summer
Wake up at 7am everyday ☀️
Brush hair/practice cute and different hairstyles!
Drink Water/Green tea. Cut out juices/sugary drinks etc
Basic hygiene routine. Shower, brush teeth, wash hands, sanitise etc
Eat lots of fruits and veggies 🥗
Go for a 30min-1hr walk around my town everyday
Try and get in 10,000 steps daily 👣
Journal everyday. (Write in diary, to-do lists, and write out daily/weekly goals)
Limit screen time 🚫
Pick outfits out the night before so I have more time in the morning!
Practice Yoga/Pilates in the morning or before bed
Read 30 pages of a book everyday 📖
Shower routine. (Scrub, shower gel, moisturise, shave etc)
Skincare routine every morning/night 💦
Watch one new ep of a show I’ve been meaning to watch
Listen to music that makes me feel good!
Get 8-10 hours of sleep every night 😴
Not eating anything after 9pm/before bed time
Take time to go on Pinterest 💕 It inspires!
Talk to family/friends everyday!
Do something you enjoy 💗
Trying to do these things everyday may seem tough in the beginning, but practice and repetition is key. Once you start doing these everyday you will see MASSIVE differences!!
Take baby steps and be yourself/focus on yourself
☀️🥗🌸
Happy summer darls! <3