“To Some Extent Most Men, Straight Or Gay, Aren’t Interested In What Women Like. Maybe Gay Men, Because

“We were told we [could] only talk about the effects on our lives of being attracted to other women or femmes because “no one is oppressed for being in a heterosexual relationship.” We were accused of internalized homophobia… or being the reasons lesbians are fetishized and making lesbians look bad - that bisexual women were the reason why straight men thought that lesbians were sexually available… I never understood it, but it came up a lot… If you didn’t seem like you were a lesbian, or could be confused for one, then your position was a lot weaker. Your opinion didn’t quite matter as much. You were less likely to be one of authority in the group. Your loyalty to the community was more likely to get questioned. You were more likely to get accused of your ideas being part of the problem. Any time something came up, and you talked about it from the perspective of not being a lesbian, you were more likely to be told that your need to bring that up was part of the problem of why progress wasn’t being made.”

- Rylee, quoted by Jayna Tavarez, The Bi-ble: New Testimonials, Further original narratives and essays about bisexuality

“People think married bisexuals can vanish within the heterosexual community any time we choose, and to a certain extent this is true, but only at the cost of burying our true selves. Many people can ‘pass as normal’, but this can cause more distress than satisfaction.”

- Felicity Cade, Bisexual Horizons: Politics, Histories, Lives

Ariel Rebel and Nikita Bellucci

Bobby Briggs…

Twin Peaks: Coma (1990) dir. David Lynch

“Characters rarely identified themselves as bisexual out loud - instead they behaved their bisexuality, usually through an illicit queer hookup (followed by a breakdown because they’re so “confused”). This taught me that bisexuality was something you do, rather than something you are. And since I hadn’t “done it” yet, I figured I was straight.”

- Jen Winston, Greedy: Notes from a Bisexual Who Wants Too Much

pictures titled “just a girl and her dogs” but they’re all pictures of men in a submissive stance to the woman