Healingange - N'oublier Pas

The Book of Forbidden Knowledge, No. 1643

Women have another option. They can aspire to be wise, not merely nice; to be competent, not merely helpful; to be strong, not merely graceful; to be ambitious for themselves, not merely for themselves in relation to men and children. They can let themselves age naturally and without embarrassment, actively protesting and disobeying the conventions that stem from this society’s double standard about aging. Instead of being girls, girls as long as possible, who then age humiliatingly into middle-aged women, they can become women much earlier — and remain active adults, enjoying the long, erotic career of which women are capable, far longer. Women should allow their faces to show the lives they have lived. Women should tell the truth.

—Susan Sontag, "The Double Standard of Aging," The Saturday Review, Sept 23, 1972

(Philo Thoughts)

https://www.nytimes.com/2024/07/07/magazine/kidnapping-long-island.html

the energy and naturally everything in my life started to flow easier when i recognised that I was placing the blame on everyone but using that as a scapegoat for not changing anything in my life

learned helplessness and victimhood is a subtle predator of the subconscious ! deprogram that shiiiiii and remember how much power not only that you ‘have’ or ‘hold’ but that you are !

Whats something interesting you learned this year?

That you should live each moment of your life as if it were eternally there, fixed in memory, in another dimension. Not as if it were fleeting. I say this because time is not a concept, time is what we are. Even butterflies are made of time. Time is the universe. But humanity has divided time into objects, concepts, and categories. We have invented clocks, calendars, pendulums, etc all so that we can grasp our own existence. The month, the hour, the minute, the second, it’s all so comforting because it is our way of participating in the universe. But the future does not happen, the past has not happened. Everything is here. Right now. And the body knows it.

I wish you an endless list of dreams, and the furious desire to make some of them come true. I wish you to love what must be loved and to forget what must be forgotten. I wish you passions, I wish you silences. I wish you bird songs at dawn and chidren’s laughter. I wish you to respect people’s differences, because the value and merit of each often remains to be discovered. I wish you to refuse a stalemate, or the indifference and negative vertues of our time. And I wish you never to renounce the search, adventure, life, love, because life is an incredible adventure and no reasonable human being must renounce it without putting up a tough fight. I wish you most of all to be yourself, proud and happy, because happiness is our true destiny.

―Jacques Brel

Wonderful new year wishes of Belgian singer Jacques Brel on January 1 1968 (Europe 1 radio).