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mindful social media habits for 2025 🦋

social media can be our best friend, and our greatest enemy. but there's a way you can mindfully alter your use of social media to benefit your improvement journey.

let's make our online presence as intentional as our offline one. here's how to create healthier social media habits while staying connected~

morning routine:

no phones first hour

check notifications once

respond mindfully

set daily time limits

positive feed curation

content consumption:

follow inspiring accounts

unfollow negative energy

save posts for later

engage meaningfully

share with purpose

digital wellness:

regular feed cleanse

turn off notifications

set boundaries

scheduled breaks

mindful scrolling

engagement tips:

genuine comments

support others

share knowledge

spread positivity

be authentic

mental health checks:

notice emotional triggers

compare less

practice gratitude

take regular breaks

offline activities

social media should add value to your life, not drain it. it's okay to step back when needed and create boundaries that protect your peace.

virtual hugs, mindy

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The Dollhouse Diaries

Real Life In Plastic Tip #6:

ෆTime Management for Neurodivergent Girly Girls and Boujie Hyperfemmesෆ

This is the pretty girl era of having time management under control. The key is to learn how to live in the moment while also being discipline enough to move on to the next task as needed. I know that sentence was as daunting to read as it was for me to write ૮꒰ྀི⊃⸝ ⸝ ⸝⊂꒱ྀིა I guarantee I gotcha *Chaeyoung voice*

First Things First: Go 1 Week At a Time!! (every 3 days if an entire 7 is too much or your schedule is unpredictable, like mine)

Build a simple list of all the things you have to do and that you would like to do. Its much easier to get it all out on the table so you can donate more of your brain power to sorting things, rather than holding things.

Put all of the things listed on a calendar: Most important first things first! This means things like health appointments,work schedule, birthdays, holidays that you celebrate, classes, or anything that involves not only your time but other’s as well. Then after that put the elective things second; Nail appointments, shopping trips, dates with friends, etc. Lastly, put the things you would like to incorporate into your daily routine; We talking skincare, any hobbies you may have like drawing/painting/sculpting/reading/blogging, any form of exercise, etc.

Once the week or however much time you have scheduled out is done on your overall calendar, then its time for marrying it to your life.

Marrying your schedule: Planner apps, Physical Planner, Dry Erase Boards and Bullet Journals

Choosing your medium at keeping up with your schedule is very important. You may have to try them all before you get comfortable with something. I have tried them all and I’ve found that the main one that truly stuck with me was the app/website Notion. I like it because its fully customizable and you can use it at your own pace. Every week or every day may not be super eventful and so it drops the guilt and shameful feeling of not filling up pages every single day.

Here is what all I use and the way I use them:

Notion <3 I use it as my overall journal. I use the apps on my ipad/phone to check if I’m not home and I can use the website on my PC when I’m home and relaxing. I like it because its very versatile. Think of it as a digital journal combined with similar mechanics of tumblr. I use it for literally everything. There are a lot of videos that can show off all of the cool things Notion can be used for but this is the video that personally helped me learn it quickly

Bullet Journals <3 I have about 3 journals and I love them because I get to customize things with cute stickers and it gives very fun scrapbooking vibes. Because I use Notion as a all over planner I can use my BUJO’s for more fun and creative things. I usually use these for all of my cute ideas and things thats in my mind and aesthetic wishlists and such. Its very therapeutic to take time out to be kawaii and glamorous and just put cute thoughts on to paper! I mainly use it for kpop inputs, my fav shows, wishlists, dates and etc.

Dry erase board <3 I use this as a overall daily top important to-do list! Sometimes I dont always open my notion if I dont have anything extremely important coming up but there may be some things I need to keep on my mind to do for that day. The way my neurodivergency is set up I need to keep the most important things always in my face or I could forget everything. So, I put things on there like get a new tire, pick up order from bath & bodyworks, put clothes in the dryer, wash dishes, and etc. Daily tasks like that usually goes on my dry erase board

Remember at the end of the day dont be too hard on yourself and your schedule! Move at your own pace and always set yourself up for success. Scheduling is ideally suppose to calm you and be a tool to improve your life; not stress you out. If at any point you begin to feel overwhelmed just stop and recenter yourself and your life. I felt overwhelmed at first myself and that was because I was trying to keep up with a hyper organized and productive version of myself that I needed to give more patience to develop. Let this come organically to you and not because you are trying to keep up with what u feel everyone else is doing, or to the future self you are going to inevitably become. Happy scheduling, Dollmate!

dealing with the blues : how to manage negative emotions and more ૮꒰◞ ˕ ◟ ྀི꒱ა rotting vs resting

i know how upsetting life can be sometimes. you want to get better but something happens and life just keeps pushing you down, and you fall further and further into a rut. and because of that, you start to feel even worse. "why am i not doing as good as the others?" , "why am i so xyz?" , "why am i not like her?" etc etc. cmon my love. this isn't the time to compare yourself to others and feel even worse but to slowly dig up the soil, and find out what is actually going on. ♡ just take a day off, babe seriously. sometimes you just need to let yourself be upset and be unproductive yk? there is nooo shame in being unproductive as hell for a day or two. take your time and have a good break. now talking about breaks, we have a problem. are you really resting or rotting? RESTING makes you feel good, happy and energised ROTTING makes you feel guilty, unproductive, sluggish a lot of the times, instead of resting and recharging our minds, we are feeding our minds with lots and lots of brainrot, indulging in bad habits in the name of "resting", avoiding important work etc which in return make us feel even worse! well, resting isn't supposed to do that, right? resting is supposed to recharge you, get you ready to fight again. so next time you choose to 'rest', be mindful. do not indulge in things that you know will make you feel worse. doomscrolling is not resting. stalking your friends is not self care. intentionally avoiding important work is not self care. binge watching series by wrecking your sleep schedule and then feel guilty abt being on your phone all day is not self care. self care and resting is doing things you love which will nourish your mind and distract you for a little while, so that you can take a step back and just be aive for a bit.

an example of a day off could be smth like this ( just an example, please remember that everyone's life is different and so is yours. adjust accordingly ) : ʚɞ do not set any alarm, let yourself wake up naturally and when you do, pick up that book you have been meaning to read for a long time. ʚɞ have breakfast ʚɞ do 1 thing you really love and which makes you super happy (dancing, singing, acting etc) ʚɞ talk to someone or write abt how you are feeling ʚɞ try to create smth. a quick diy project, a lil sketch, crochet, a new dance move, a song cover, a poem, a video, photography etc ʚɞ do 1 imp work which you have been putting off (homework, stdy for a test etc) ʚɞ delete instagram for a bit and surround yourself with positivity. use tumblr, youtube, pinterest instead. ʚɞ go outside, even for just 5 minutes. ʚɞ maybe call up your friend/s and play smth ʚɞ take cute pics of urself ʚɞ maybe post smth cute on tumblr wink wink ʚɞ have a cute night ritual and then go to bed. ₊⊹ monitor what you have been consuming lately what you feed your mind and body actually matters (lol what a shocker). so tell me, have you been eating well? sleeping well? surrounding yourself with positivity? or have you been consuming content which further degrades your mental and physical health? try to replace unhealthy junk with healthy stuff. fix your fyp, choose "not interested" for posts which no longer resonate with you. declutter and reorganise. i really, really suggest trying a quick digital detox for a day. ⸜(｡˃ ᵕ ˂ )⸝♡ talk to someone who you feel safe with. you can even text me, ill try my best to respond <3 please talk to someone when you feel upset, communicate bbgs, communicate! even if it is hard and uncomfortable. if you feel like you have no one to talk to, talk to a stuffed animal or a tree or yourself. let those thoughts and feelings out, don't hold them inside your body. release them. observe them. try to understand them. but never let negative emotions become a part of you. they come and go, like any other emotion. you will be just fine. even when it feels like it is the end of the world love you always,

@deardiarywrites

staying and feeling clean and fresh⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🛁💕

HAVING GOOD SMELLING HAIR ;

having good smelling hair doesn't only boil down to the scented shampoos and conditioners you use in ur hair. odor in ur hair originates in ur scalp so by keeping a clean scalp -> your hair will smell better! if u have a dry scalp, oil your hair before washing it. oil breaks down oil. if u have an oily scalp, clarify ur hair once a week.

you can figure out what kind of scalp type you have with the quiz i'll link right here (♡) also, i find that how u wash ur hair makes SUCH a difference. i always shampoo twice and i use a bubble foamer to really emulsify my shampoo and that makes my hair feel SO much cleaner and softer so i highly recommend that.

so what i'll do, is i'll make my shampoo foam and put it onto my scalp and then use a scalp massager to REAALLLY get in there and clean my head. massaging my scalp during this time feels so nice. i massage the five different meridians on my scalp and just really enjoy this step. some other general tips include :

🫧 dont use regular perfume on ur hair bcuz the alcohol in perfume dries out ur hair, instead use a hair perfume

🫧 make sure that your washing your hair brushes every couple of weeks to manage the residual product and stop redistributing those oils back into ur hair

SMELLING GOOD ;

using glycolic acid on ur skin gets rid of odor that simply showering cannot. i wipe down with glycolic acid on my underarms once a week. another thing that helps with smelling super good is not rubbing ur perfume in! when u apply perfume onto ur wrists and u rub, ur just breaking them done and making them foggy and thats NOT hot.

dont ever rub, just let it sink into ur skin. also, applying it onto your pressure points (e.g. inner wrists, inner elbows, neck, in between ur boobs) makes all the difference bcuz when u sweat ur body releases heat from here, emitting ur perfume.

ORAL HYGEINE ;

🫧 floss every single night and tongue scraping in the morning! its a non-negotiable

🫧 brush ur teeth 2x a day

🫧 oil pulling 1-2x a week to whiten my teeth and for general oral health (i oil pull with coconut oil)

SHOWER ROUTINE ORDER ;

bar soap (if i need to i'll use an antibacterial one) -> body wash -> OUT OF THE SHOWER -> body oil -> lotion/body butter (keep in mind the body oils and butters go on while ur skin is still slightly damp) -> perfume 🛁💕

GENERAL TIPS AND CHARTS ;

🫧 i use exfoliation gloves/african net sponge every single day, it keeps my skin super duper soft and my skin isnt highly sensitive so i can take it.

🫧 make sure that you use scents that layer well together and blend nicely. dont use a pineapple scented body wash and use a chocolate scented body butter! then you're gonna smell a mess.

🫧 dont use an antibacterial bar soap every single day because its superrr drying for your skin.

To me, songs are kind of like bookmarks. Have you ever listened to a song that you haven’t heard in a while, and all of a sudden, all the memories of that time period come back, and you remember what your life used to be like. They’re like milestones in your life.

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