Manifesting That Somebody Does It Before The End Of The Year

Something random that pisses me off is how autistic boys throw hands at their moms but not their dads. I have autistic male cousins that need a lot of support but I feel so bad for my aunt because they fucking beat her during their meltdowns, but when the dad is there? They WON’T. And apparently it’s not a unique thing either. Is it because they know they can get away with it? That they can physically overpower her? Anyone with knowledge about this topic please LMK.

Carrie is fat in the book. Learning that completely blew me.

The use of pigs blood makes so much more sense. The reason she was bullied so relentlesly, even though she does nothing to nobody, makes so much more sense. The relationship with her mother makes so much more sense.

I know they aren't going to, but I wish they would cast someone fat in this new Carrie adaptation. From the articles I've seen, they are already speculating which skinny actress it's going to be.

How many times can they tell the story the same exact way? The answer: endlessly.

I don't know what's worse the total erasure of fat people in movies or the only story we get to see ourselves in are the love yourself fatty movies.

i’m sorry, but i feel like we give men plenty of space to cry whenever they need to. didn’t achilles break down in tears over hector’s body? didn’t jesus weep? did johnny cash teach the weeping willow how to cry?

get the actual fuck out of here with “in our culture we teach boys to suppress their emotions” when western literature and art is full of heroic men who cry, when it actually exalts their tears and elevates them into profound significance. get OUT of here.

Did you know that after they switched to blind auditions, major symphony orchestras hired women between 30% to 55% more? Before bringing in “blind auditions” with a screen to conceal the the candidate, women in the top 5 major orchestras made up less than 5% of the musicians performing.

I think more people on radblr should be talking about sweatshops, especially in the garment industry.

• Around 80% of sweatshop workers are women. Some employers force them to take birth control and pregnancy tests to avoid having to pay for maternity leave. Pregnant women are routinely denied sick leave to visit doctors, terminated from their contracts early, or left without any maternity leave when their short-term contracts are not renewed.

• Women are more likely than men to experience minimum wage violations. According to one study, "30 percent of the women workers in our sample experienced minimum wage violations, compared to 20 percent of the men". [Source: https://www.nelp.org/publication/broken-laws-unprotected-workers-violations-of-employment-and-labor-laws-in-americas-cities/ ]

• Indonesian women employees report that “girls in the factory are harassed by male managers. They come on to the girls, call them into their offices, whisper into their ears, touch them, bribe them with money and threaten them with firing if they don’t have sex with them.” [source: cleanclothes.org]

• "Toilet breaks are monitored, and some workers said they were flat out denied them, even when sick. The same goes for water and lunch breaks, both necessary to stay healthy when working 12+ hour days in a stuffy, overcrowded factory." 20% of women in sweatshops report experiencing sexual violence. [https://iwda.org.au/three-ways-garment-factories-violate-the-rights-of-women-and-how-its-allowed-to-happen/ ]

It's easy not to support this kind of abuse. Do not buy clothes first-hand. Only buy from thrift shops and second-hand apps, or find ethical brands and investigate where and how they make their clothing (hint: if a t-shirt costs $3, it's not ethical). Patch your old clothes. Consider learning basic sewing (it's not as difficult as it seems!)

I don't care how cheap Shein and Temu are. I don't care how much you think you need that specific Zara coat. Buying clothes directly harms women and avoiding it is a very easy way to help.

I know this is an odd post to make, but in case someone needs to hear it, rad fems have been in your shoes, and still chose to align with radical feminism.

I started wearing makeup and push up bras in middle school. I discovered bdsm in 9th grade and loved it, I based my identity in it. I've dated/slept with 8 different trans women, and my longest relationship was with a trans woman just a few years back. I identified as a trans man from 16 to 21, and started medically transitioning when I was 19. I used to look at porn every day because I didn't understand the harm it did, and I actually used to post sexual videos of myself online for praise and approval. I was so vehemently pro "sex work" that I would've pursued it as an income had I not been so aware of how it'd affect my future career.

I was radicalized when I realized how much all of these things were based on who I was trained to become by the patriarchy, or in reaction to trauma it had caused me. I slept with so many TIMs for the validation and to feel like a good person, I was into kink because I had been sexually assaulted since infancy and it felt like an escape from normal sex while still fulfilling the male fantasy, I was transitioning to escape all of the expectations put on me as a female who just couldn't be "woman" enough. My life has been ruled by the patriarchy, and opening my eyes to the amount of brain washing I went through, from Christianity as a kid all the way through being a queer teen on the internet made me a rad fem. We were just like you, and we still became radical feminists.

In the same way that ending slavery didn't have to be good for Whites, ending the Holocaust didn't have to be good for gentiles/people not in concentration camps, legalizing gay marriage didn't have to be good for straights, etc., feminism and women's rights don't have to be good for males in order to be legitimate.

People be like, “Oh, you’re reducing womanhood to just having a vagina.”

And I’m like... yeah....

The fact I was born with a vulva was the entire baseline of the sexism I faced growing up and still face every day.

It’s not some abstract identity or feeling. It’s the brutal, physical reality that shaped how the world treated me from day one.

So don’t tell me womanhood isn’t tied to the body when that body has been the frontline of every fight I’ve had to survive.

I love my body, if I’m being honest: Like, thank you for carrying me through all this kind of love.

But it’s also just a body. It’s weird. It leaks. It gets sore. It’s lopsided and unpredictable at times, my back hurts a lot.

Because it’s human, my vessel, not my whole story.

But unfortunately, outside factors have tried to disrupt that and tried to make me distrust this body.

Tried to convince me it was too much, too little, too wrong, too dangerous, too female.

They taught me to flinch at my reflection and to see my body as something to fix, cover, offer, or hide.

All because I have a vulva.

A vagina.

Labia.

Ovaries.

A uterus.

Tubes.

Mammary glands.

That’s all it took.

Not my words. Not my thoughts. Not my heart or how I treat people.

Just the fact that I was born in this body with these parts and suddenly the world decided what I deserved.

Pain. Shame. Control. Violation. Comparison. Dismissal.

They built entire systems to punish me for being born with organs I didn’t choose.

And then had the audacity to tell me I was reducing womanhood by naming the body they’ve spent centuries trying to control.

So yeah I’m a woman because I have a vagina.

Deal with it 💋

A cervical cancer charity (JoTrust) has the term "bonus hole" in their official glossary.