Something Charmingly Twentieth Century About This

I miss the days when, no matter how slow your internet was, if you paused any video and let it buffer long enough, you could watch it uninterrupted

Women:

Rapey Incel:

Men who feel this victimized by a woman’s “no” are monsters.

I love Twitch. I click on a female streamer and within 30 seconds a man is in her chat telling her to go back in the kitchen. One minute later another man is asking for pictures of her feet. I click on another female streamer and she's explaining why she can't put the webcam on: she's had fake lashes put on her and her eyes are red, swollen, crying and burning. She's in so much pain. But it's okay she always gets allergic reactions when she gets fake eye lashes. I click on a male streamer and his girlfriend is hand feeding him dinner so he can keep his hands on the keyboard and play his little game. In response he keeps repeating "you're so pretty oh my god you're so pretty you look incredibly pretty today". His chat is full of men calling the woman "our girlfriend". Twitch keeps recommending me that female streamer who does porn. The female streamer with the highest viewercount among women. A male streamer is anxious to play an online game with vocal chat. He tells his 10k viewers that he's scared another player will say something offensive and he'll get banned from Twitch. In the end he decides to try it, he plays with another guy and it goes well, then he plays with a woman and his chat becomes so misogynistic his moderators have to disable it for a while. I stream myself and try a virtual avatar for the first time, I try to make her look like me. A regular viewer immediately asks me if my breasts are as big in real life. I put my avatar in a wide shirt for a week after that, before ditching the avatar altogether. I receive a private message from a man with a fetish telling me to punish him for saying women can't play video games. He's spamming all women. He made a special account for it. Male streamers' chat are filled with rape jokes inspired by porn. A man who calls his girlfriend a bitch says he won't be playing the Harry Potter game because it's disrespectful to trans people. Many female streamers appear all dolled up under a pink light with a pink catgirl headset the camera titled towards their breasts. Or they use a hentai virtual avatar. All male streamers look like they haven't washed in a month.

Where’s that post that’s like “as a woman from India radical feminism is the default feminism in the global south” and some American replies like “uh yeah I was born in Louisiana I know the south is filled with bigots like you”

“but there’s beauty standards for men too! men are punished for not being masculine!” yeah but men’s natural bodies are considered masculine. and women’s natural bodies are considered masculine. not shaving on a man is masculine, and not shaving on a woman is also masculine. do you see the difference? men are discouraged from performing extra beauty rituals whereas women are discouraged from being their natural selves. women are expected to perform rituals to comply with societal gender roles whereas men are expected to be their natural selves.

ppl really r like “how dare you place misogyny on the same level as *ACTUAL BIGOTRY* like idk where people get the idea that it’s like totally unreasonable to compare misogyny to racism or homophobia or to think misogyny is a serious issue

I'm trying to understand why feminism is hated by other women. Most of them say "I'm not feminist because I want equality and not women above men". They care more about men than us.

They care more about the same people who harass, rape and kill women just because they (we) exist.

Are you anti-polyamorous?

yeah it's called being normal

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here’s my perspective:

liberal feminism is individualist. it affirms anything a woman does out of choice regardless of the impact of said choice. for example, if a woman chooses to appear in hardcore pornography, great! she chose it! liberal feminism neglects to look at the impact of such actions—young boys and men see this, fetishize it, expect women to enact it in real life. young women and girls see it, think that maybe it’s worth a try because that other woman enjoys it, think there’s something wrong with them for not enjoying it, and possibly get hurt.

radical feminism is not individualist. it is collectivist. in the case of hardcore pornography used above, radical feminism doesn’t care that one individual woman said she liked being in porn. it doesn’t matter because of the great majority of women and girls that are trafficked, raped, abused, and murdered for men’s sexual gratification. it doesn’t matter because of all of the harm the industry does to women and girls at large. the choice of one doesn’t matter when it adds to the collective harm of women as a marginalized class.

radical feminism recognizes women as a sex-based marginalized class. as radical feminists, we have to examine what harms women as a class, not as individuals. liberal feminism—pervasive mostly in the western, developed world—focuses on individual harm, individual autonomy, while failing to realize that a great number of women around the globe do not even have the ability to be autonomous, let alone determine what they do or do not want to do with their lives.

if a majority of women involved in the porn industry are being harmed by it, does it matter that a minority say they enjoy it? if a majority of women are harmed by beauty standards and the beauty industry, does it matter that some women like wearing makeup and shaving their body hair? if a majority of women seek safety in female-only spaces, does it matter that some women don’t care for them? why are a small number of women—mostly white, upper-middle class, western, straight, femininity supporting women—praised for being and claim to be feminists when all they do is reinforce patriarchal values and neglect a majority of their sisters around the world?

more than that, why do liberal feminists not care to do any real analysis of the structures that harm women if a few women claim to enjoy it? why are they mainly listening to the “sex work is work!” crowd and not the countless numbers of women who were traumatized by the industry? why, as a culture, are we prioritizing patriarchal and capitalist values and proclaiming them as feminist? why do liberal feminists not think beyond their relatively small western bubble? why are the reasons for willingly entering the porn industry, per se, (i.e. childhood sexual abuse) not considered? why are the repercussions not considered?

one of my main beliefs is that no woman has a choice until all women have a choice. i don’t care if a relatively small number of white western women (the majority that i see supporting liberal feminism, and also trans rights activists) ‘enjoy’ commodifying themselves because the majority of women don’t have the choice to be commodified. i don’t care if a woman likes wearing makeup because the makeup industry harms women. i don’t care if you choose to reinforce the patriarchy because your privilege protects you from a great deal of its harm because this choice of yours gives men more reason to believe that women enjoy enforced femininity, objectification, abuse, rape, so on and so forth. your choice is meaningless because none of us live in a vacuum.

unless all women are liberated, no woman is liberated. we should prioritize our work around our sisters of all colors, from all parts of the globe whose sex prevents them from having many of the choices we do in the west. we should use our choice to have a voice to uplift the voices of women without such privilege.