Detachment - Blog Posts

life is teaching me the law of detachment. ain’t nothing really yours, you gotta be comfortable with not being attached. just enjoying life for what it is & moving on when it’s time

If what you love in someone is their essence, their spirit, their love…that is eternal and it never leaves because it is a part of you.

"Imagine the idea that the moment you were born you were kicked off the edge of a precipice, and you are falling. As you fell, a great lump of rock came with you, and it’s traveling alongside you. And you’re clinging to it for dear life! And thinking, ‘Gee, I’ve gotta hold onto this.’ You see? Well, it doesn’t do a thing for you. And it’s only making you anxious, and as soon as you understand that it doesn’t do a thing for you that you let go and relax. So, everybody’s in this situation. We’re all completely insecure! We’re all headed straight for death, as if we had been condemned by a judge. And yet here we are all clinging onto things. And we have all sorts of alibis for doing this. We say, ‘Well, I have responsibilities for my dependents, and I’ve got to cling on.’ But all you’re doing is you’re teaching your dependents to cling the same way as you are and making them miserable by learning to go on surviving compulsively.

So the thing is, the same way you’re caught in a torrent, and you try to get out of it by swimming against it, you’ll just wear yourself out, and you’re still carried along with it. So the sensible thing to do is to turn around and swim with it! And if you want to get out of it, swim towards the edge. But go with it! Same way when you’re sailing. Always keep the wind in your sails. If you want to go against the wind: tack! But use the wind. So it’s this way, you know, we’re all in this great stream of change which we call life, we ARE the stream! If you imagine you're separate from it, and you're being carried along by IT as if you were a cork, that's a delusion. You're a wave of the stream itself, so get with IT!”

~Alan Watts

Hepimizin sorunları var. Hepimizin baş ettiği şeyler var ve hepimiz bu sorunları gece yanımızda eve taşıyoruz, sabah da yanımızda işe taşıyoruz. Sanırım bu, denizde çırpınan birine can yeleğini atacağın sırada kendinin de can yeleği veya güvenlik ağı olmadan denizde sürüklendiğini sezip durumun farkına varmanın verdiği çaresizlik.

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Koridorda yürürken veya sınıftayken kaçınız omuzlarınıza çöken büyük bir ağırlık hissediyor? Hepiniz mi? Vay canına! Poe, bu konuları 100 yıl önce kaleme aldı. "Usher'ın Evi, sadece bakıma muhtaç döküntü bir kale değildi. Aynı zamanda yaşayan bir varlıktı. O yıl güz mevsiminde sıkıcı, kasvetli ve sessiz günde bulutlar bunaltıcı bir şekilde yere yakın halde havada süzülürken at sırtında tek başıma tuhaf bir şekilde hüzün veren kırsal alanda ilerliyordum. Nihayet akşam karanlığı çöktüğü sırada Usher'ın Evi'nin hüzünlü manzarasıyla karşılaştım. Nasıl göründüğünü biliyordum. Ama yine de binaya ilk baktığımda ruhumu dayanılmaz bir sıkıntı sardı. Malikanenin basit manzarasına, çıplak duvarlarına ve çürümüş ağaçların beyaz gövdelerine baktım. Tam bir ruh buhranı içinde kalbimde bir soğukluk, bir çöküş, bir tiksinti hissettim."

Detachment