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We need to clean a room, do any beings have any tips? (We need tips that keep in mind that our issues are mainly from AuDHD and chronic pain rn).
- Shay 🐾
We aren't really good at drawing but we are thinking of starting to do commissions soon. Are there any good tips for both art and commissions?
Like what's the best way to get the money from commissions (PayPal, gofundme, etc)? [And other tips for commissions].
Also just art/drawing tips for both traditional and digital.
[We don't have a job, are working on getting disability income, and the body's dad only gets disability and retirement so we don't have very much money.]
Edit: Also, what would you like to see us try to do commissions of? (Examples: animals, anthro animals, humans/human-like beings, etc).
- Shay 🐾
Any beings have tips for artists? Both digital and traditional (on paper/whatever) tips are appreciated.
Edit: We are kinda mostly asking cause we wanna be able to do proper commissions maybe instead of just asking for donations for pur service dog.
- Shay 🐾
Chronic pain sucks so much and periods just make everything worse.
- Shay 🐾
Do any beings have any advice/tips for disabled beings who struggle with motivation and memory? The main things that we know (keyword is know) are relevant here are that we are autistic, ADHD, and have depression.
Also normal reminders on our phone don't tend to work as we just get rid of them when they show up without even looking at what they are for. So way(s) to get around that would also be helpful.
Basically, we are just asking for tips/advice for disabled beings.
- Shay.🐾
Thanks for the reply!
We definitely think of it as better than the "functioning" label system (cause of what that system was originally for) but yeah every system has flaws.
So medium support needs seems to fit us.
As we don't have a job, and don't have a "caretaker". And we could go on but this is the main bits, lol. Basically, we have more support needs than a low support needs being and less support needs than a high support needs being.
- Shay 🐾
Can any being(s) explain exactly what each "level" of support needs mean? (High, medium, and low are the ones we have seen/heard)
Cause we literally aren't sure what we count under.
Like it almost seems like we are low-medium support needs or high-low support needs (like on the lower side of medium or higher side of low).
Does this make any sense?
- Shay 🐾
Can any being(s) explain exactly what each "level" of support needs mean? (High, medium, and low are the ones we have seen/heard)
Cause we literally aren't sure what we count under.
Like it almost seems like we are low-medium support needs or high-low support needs (like on the lower side of medium or higher side of low).
Does this make any sense?
- Shay 🐾
Sorry, we haven't been posting lately. Our motivation and energy have been a bit worse lately.
Hopefully we will be starting to post more soon.
We will definitely be posting more about service dog stuff for us when we actually start the process of getting a service dog. We will probably have donation stuff for us when this happens cause we don't have too much money, lol. We have been trying to work on getting disability income (we always forget what it's actually called, lol) as we can't work but we have heard that it usually takes quite a while before beings actually get it. And the body's dad is disabled and a retired veteran so not too much money there either. And the body's brother doesn't work (and also might not be able to).
Anyway, all of this is to say that we will hopefully be posting again soon and that we might be asking for donations once we properly work on getting a service dog, lol.
- Shay 🐾
Thanks for answering!!
We haven't fully looked at the video yet but we wanted to respond a bit to the side note thing (also maybe the tags?).
Yeah google is very good for things, lol. We just mainly sent the ask cause we saw that you had said that you wanted some asks sent, lol.
We had some ASL classes (read: was in ASL 1 two times cause we aren't good with school and that includes college, lol). We would love to take more classes for ASL but we have a lot of difficulties with school and stuff so that seems like it might not happen.
While we might not be deaf (although we do have difficulties with hearing, lol), the reason we love ASL and learning it is that we have verbal shutdowns (others tend to refer to this kind of thing as "going nonverbal" but that's not really correct). So while ASL might not be our language or culture, to us it is more than just a "fun fact". [This was just us explaining, we aren't upset with you saying the thing about it being a fun fact].
Once again, thanks for answering our ask!
- Shay 🐾
Hello! We saw your "speak your language day" post.
We know a bit of ASL ourselves but would definitely love to learn more!
Do you know how to sign things like "plural" (as in the plurality community), "alterhuman", "nonhuman", and just stuff like that? We would love to learn if there are signs for some of our communities even though there probably isn't, lol.
If there aren't any signs for those, we would just love to learn different signs for (nonhuman) animals! Especially canines (wolves, dogs, jackals, etc.) and felines (cats, tigers, cheetahs, etc.)
- Shay 🐾
English:
I’m still a student so I’m not an ASL authority, remember that. But, for plural I would maybe sign like [listing things], or… depends on how many you feel, like [list 2] [list 3] [list 4] [list 5] personalities, or self, [multiple self]. Maybe, depends. For- I’ve seen human signed with the H handshape like [body] becomes [human] like [person] becomes [human]. So maybe with other signs added before, like [not human] or [other human]. Or [not human] [other human]. Like that. There’s not a lot of signs for specific identities like that. But for other animal signs, the sign for animal is [animal]. I don’t know a lot… like, I know dog, I know cat, but specific types…. Like, a lot is describing what it looks like. I don’t know if tiger sign exists already, it probably does, I would try signing it by explaining what it looks like. Like, orange cat, large with black stripes down it, like that. Yeah. I hope that helps. Bye!
(Side note: Not signed just adding something. If you’re curious about a sign, google is your friend. Lots of signs can be found online and signs can vary depending on the region. Some signs in the state I’m from are very different from signs elsewhere. Look online and if trying to communicate with deaf people in your area keep in mind that many signs can be localized! Just cause I sign something one way doesn’t mean a deaf person from your state is wrong for signing it another. Far from it! Understand the culture of your area, understand deaf culture, and remember, for you it may be a fun fact, for them it’s their language. Be aware and have fun signing!)
Rebloging to give slight "update" on this.
We are right now just making a yarn tail (also, is acrylic yarn good or bad?) Until we get the time, energy, and knowledge to go about trying to make a tail with our dog's fur.
We are thankful for all the suggestions and tips other beings gave us! But also, we are sort of "dumb" and don't necessarily understand some things in the suggestions and tips, lol. So we would appreciate it if any other beings can help us understand a bit better forthose tips and suggestions, lol.
- Shay 🐾
[If there are any mistakes in spelling and grammar, only correct us if you are doing it constructively, please].
Do any beings know how to go about making a tail and/or ears with brushed off fur from a dog? Or where to find information about that kind of thing? (We have a husky, and we want to use some of his fur to make at least a tail and maybe ears as well).
We are thinking about using the start of a yarn tail to add the fur to it (we also need fur safe dye cause our dog's fur is white and ours should be a kind of dark brown). Would this work?
We wanna make a tail cause we aren't really able to properly find an ethical tail seller [we are disabled, we aren't gonna go more into it], and we have heard that fake fur tails aren't really that great. We might just end up making just a yarn tail if we can't find a way to use our dog's fur for it. [Are yarn tails good for the environment and stuff?]
- Shay 🐾
We'd also like to reblog to add in that we would also appreciate if beings gave tips for good animal shelters and rescues. Like what to look for to figure out if a place is a good place to find/buy pets from.
- Shay 🐾
Beings who know about ethical dog breeding/breeders in the USA, we have some questions.
(We are currently trying to find good ethical german shepherd dog breeders sort of around us to get a puppy so we can train [mostly professionally trained, we have a place in mind for that] to have a service dog).
Firstly, what should be looked for in a breeders?
Secondly, is it bad if a place/being breeds multiple breeds?
And just overall, how to find good ethical breeders.
Edit: Is it best to go for a working line, or does show line work fine for service dog work?
- Shay 🐾
Yep, to all of this.
Also, just stop using disorders, disabilities, mental terms, etc. in contexts that aren't actually the disorder, disability, etc. Like, please, for the love of everything, stop saying "I'm so OCD" when you don't have OCD and are just being neat. And stuff that is similar.
- Shay 🐾
periodic reminder that it costs zero dollars and zero cents to not use the words psychotic, psycho, schizophrenic, schizo, insane, or delusional to mean derogatory things
no, that alt right person is not “psychotic” for being racist and having racist beliefs. you can be racist without having psychosis. it’s not mental illness causing these beliefs, it’s just hatred and bigotry.
no, that person advocating to repeal the medical rights of trans people is not “delusional/deluded”. you can be transphobic without experiencing delusions. it’s not a mental illness that causes these beliefs, it’s just hatred and bigotry.
no, that person supporting israel is not “insane” for justifying and supporting genocide. you can support genocide without having a severe mental illness. it’s not mental illness that causes these beliefs, it’s cruelty and hatred.
just find a different word. it is not that difficult. what IS difficult is living with psychosis, especially when it is stigmatized day in and day out. when we equate medical conditions with moral standing or worth, that’s eugenics.
i wish nothing but peace and love on everyone including those who have used these terms in the past, present and future, but i am tired.
there are so many good posts making good points that fall short because they use terms relating to psychosis to indicate moral failing.
psychosis. is. not. morally. corrupt.
STOP equating psychosis with bigotry, hatred, and cruelty.
note. people without psychotic symptoms are encouraged to reblog this. i am not going to do more than my share of the work to educate non-psychotics when i’m struggling with my own symptoms. thank you.
We would also like to add in trans men probably do too, especially if they aren't "passing." (As you talked about "men, " which trans men are still men.) Also, those under the nonbinary umbrella.
Also, AuDHD [enby] plural here, it's really fucking hard to control facial expressions. And we would like to point out that maybe Autistic, ADHD, etc. men probably also experience getting told off about facial expressions. However, we do not know as the body is AFAB (we are actually using this how it is meant to be used, as we may or may not technically be intersex, we need/want to figure that out, lol).
We aren't trying to "take this post away from women" or anything. We just feel the need to add that it's pretty much any being that isn't very "accepted" (for lack of a better word) is likely to be treated like this.
- Shay 🐾
do men have resting bitch faces as well or do they not have negative characteristics ascribed to them for putting on a neutral rather than a deliriously happy facial expression
Beings who know about ethical dog breeding/breeders in the USA, we have some questions.
(We are currently trying to find good ethical german shepherd dog breeders sort of around us to get a puppy so we can train [mostly professionally trained, we have a place in mind for that] to have a service dog).
Firstly, what should be looked for in a breeders?
Secondly, is it bad if a place/being breeds multiple breeds?
And just overall, how to find good ethical breeders.
Edit: Is it best to go for a working line, or does show line work fine for service dog work?
- Shay 🐾
[If there are any mistakes in spelling and grammar, only correct us if you are doing it constructively, please].
Do any beings know how to go about making a tail and/or ears with brushed off fur from a dog? Or where to find information about that kind of thing? (We have a husky, and we want to use some of his fur to make at least a tail and maybe ears as well).
We are thinking about using the start of a yarn tail to add the fur to it (we also need fur safe dye cause our dog's fur is white and ours should be a kind of dark brown). Would this work?
We wanna make a tail cause we aren't really able to properly find an ethical tail seller [we are disabled, we aren't gonna go more into it], and we have heard that fake fur tails aren't really that great. We might just end up making just a yarn tail if we can't find a way to use our dog's fur for it. [Are yarn tails good for the environment and stuff?]
- Shay 🐾
🎁- what’s your special interest(s)?
✏- do/did you like or dislike school?
for the ask game thingy if youre still doing it :3
Yep, we are!! :3c [we love this. It's like a cat face with a paw under it!]
(The answers are mostly for this body/life btw).
🎁 - What's your special interest(s)?:
We actually have a post we are making about our fandom [games, movies, shows, etc.] related special hyperfixations (special interests/hyperfixations), lol, so not gonna go into that here.
Nonfandom related special hyperfixations are service animals, animals in general, art (multiple kinds, including written types), alterhuman stuff, and plural stuff.
✏ - Do/did you like or dislike school?:
[We aren't currently in school and we aren't planning on going back] The short answer is yes and no.
The long answer is we didn't seem to dislike school too much when we were younger, as we were doing alright in school, we did hate English when we were younger, but around 7th or 8th grade we started to love it. Our favorite class when we were younger was science. We still love science in a way, but it's different than when we were younger. We definitely hate math now.
School during and after COVID time became really hard for us. We were diagnosed with depression around COVID time, and our sensory issues to do with sound got worse. We weren't even diagnosed as autistic until the body was 17, almost 18 years old [we are currently 19, almost 20]. But we were diagnosed as/with ADHD at a "younger" age (we wanna say like 9 or 10 maybe?). Which while being younger than 17/18, it's still not the same as if this body was a white cis boy would have been.
Anyways, this became a kinda rant thing, lol. Hopefully, we actually managed to answer the questions though.
- Shay 🐾
Ask game!
Please include the question(s) fully in the ask.
- Shay 🐾
send an emoji to correspond to a question!! if you get asked something that you dont feel comfortable answering, you can always pass!
⏰- when were you diagnosed/when did you start suspecting you were autistic?
🌙- are you a morning person or a night person?
🎁- what’s your special interest(s)?
🍔- do you have sensory problems with food? what food do you like to eat?
🎧- what symptom(s) of yours is the hardest for you to deal with?
🦄- what do you excell at?
🍯- do you stim? what are some ways you stim?
🌡- do you prefer the heat or the cold? is one or the other stimmy? does one or the other cause sensory problems?
🌈- are you a part of the lgbt+ community? what is your lgbt+ identity?
🎢- what are some common phobias you have?
🎆- fireworks: yes or no?
💬- are you an introvert or an extrovert?
🍫- do you have a sweet tooth?
☕- do you regularly consume caffiene? do you find that caffeine helps manage your symptoms or makes them worse?
👨👩👧👦- do you have friends or family members with autism?
👕- what kind of clothes do you usually wear?
✏- do/did you like or dislike school?
💅- how do you usually practice self care?
and, just for fun,
❤- what’s your favorite color?
please only rb this post if you are autistic (self-dx friendly). obviously u can still send these asks if you’re nt tho!
Any disabled beings have any tips for other disabled beings?
We are kinda having a rough (ruff, lol) time lately.
We would especially love tips for work and how to figure out if working is actually an option right now.
- Shay 🐾
Little spoons but lots[?] of posts (kinda 3? Cause 2 reblogs are like as if we made comments but in reblogs. This would make 4).
Not sure what else to say.
- Shay 🐾
Random disabled thing.
We don't feel like any of the "support needs labels/levels" really fits us.
Like we wouldn't really say we are low support needs. We definitely aren't high support needs. And medium kinda seems wrong?
We are like high low support needs to low medium support needs, we feel like.
Do any other beings feel like this? Like you are in between support needs "levels"/"labels"/whatever the word is?
- Shay 🐾
We are being overwhelmed by a bunch of movie choices to watch while we try and either sleep or continue doing random stuff on our phone. Help.
Gonna do a poll so anyone who sees our post rn can help us decide on a movie to watch [our brain may end up actually choosing a different movie than the poll actually ends up as, cause of our stupid PDA (Pathological demand avoidance) and stuff]
Also, for the "Other" option, please have the movies be kid friendly as we [Shay subpack] might be slightly regressed rn.
Apparently, the poll has to last for either a day or a week, but it will actually last for like 1 hour or so for us.
Edit done at 01:20 AM where we are: We have decided to watch/have on Scooby-Doo Camp Scare, so we are actually listening to the poll, saying that last bit almost makes us not want to, but we will.
- Shay 🐾
We have once again been reminded that we might not be able to work a job by seeing what is required by some jobs and knowing that we can't/can't always do those things.
This shit sucks cause we need money. And more specifically, we need money that doesn't come from the body's dad as we want to get away from him [cause of him being transphobic, homophobic, etc.]. And he doesn't even get ***that much*** money. He is disabled and a retired veteran.
We also need money to get a service dog, which might make working easier/doable, but also we just might not be able to work at all.
We don't even really know what "reasonable accommodation(s)" means for most jobs. Let's say, for example, a place requires a worker to be able to lift like 50 pounds. If someone can't lift that, are they allowed accommodation for that? Is it based on the place specifically?
Working and job stuff are hard to figure out. If any being has any tips on this stuff, please share it with us. (We live in the US, btw. We don't want to share what state, though, so that might affect stuff).
- Shay 🐾
Adding on to the vent.
Tw/cw: suicide mention, suicidal thoughts, and shit like that
What do you do when in past lives you were disabled but still did stuff that you can't in this life?
What do you do when you realize that you should be more able to do stuff in this life but you are less able?
What do you do when you can't even talk about most of this to most people you know in person cause they wouldn't understand and would hate you?
What do you do when you want to make yourself more disabled than you already are?
What do you do when you are so close to trying to end it all because you can't see why you should keep living?
What do you do when you don't even think you could end it all cause you're scared and just not really wanting to end it all?
What do you do when you can't mention this to people cause you don't want to be sent away even when the place you're currently at sucks?
What do you do when you want to live but you want to die?
- Shay 🐾
Little vent from us. We are kinda going through some shit rn.
We don't think there are any tw/cw but if there are let us know.
What do you do when you realize that you might not be able to work a "normal" job or maybe any job at all ever?
What do you do when you realize that your disabilities affect what you are able to do in ways that are so against what you wanted to do and what you wish you could do?
What do you do when disabilities are actually disabling?
What do you do when other people don't understand even when they are disabled themselves?
What do you do in any situations where disabilities affect what happens?
What do you do when you need to tell people and make them understand that you are disabled and that means you can't do the same things as others?
- Shay 🐾
What do you do when you are disabled?
Little vent from us. We are kinda going through some shit rn.
We don't think there are any tw/cw but if there are let us know.
What do you do when you realize that you might not be able to work a "normal" job or maybe any job at all ever?
What do you do when you realize that your disabilities affect what you are able to do in ways that are so against what you wanted to do and what you wish you could do?
What do you do when disabilities are actually disabling?
What do you do when other people don't understand even when they are disabled themselves?
What do you do in any situations where disabilities affect what happens?
What do you do when you need to tell people and make them understand that you are disabled and that means you can't do the same things as others?
- Shay 🐾
What do you do when you are disabled?
Coining post time!!!
Term: Special hyperfixation
Meaning: When something isn't clear between if it's a hyperfixation or a special interest. So it's just called both in an easier way.
Extra: This term is for neurodivergent beings, thought of with AuDHD beings in mind, but if a being genuinely has hyperfixations and special interests, they can use it. This term can be added to similar things as hyperfixation and special interest can. Such as alters/headmates/etc. that hold special hyperfixations just like those that hold special interests and hyperfixations.
So far, there is not a flag or symbol, if any being wants to make one, that is 100% fine.
This term is free to use. Credit is appreciated but not required.
- Shay 🐾
One of our hyperfixations/special interests (we aren't quite sure which it is, lol) is service dogs.
Does anyone want to hear (or see, lol) us rant about service dogs?
If multiple beings say that they want us to rant about service dogs, we will post at least one post about service dogs!!
- Shay 🐾 (Shirley 🦮 might be in the background rn, lol)
Mood.
And for everyone wondering, our blog will be clear from April Fools jokes for the most part, and any of those jokes will be tagged so that they are clearly jokes.
- Shay 🐾
oouugghh forgot tomorrow is april fools day… time to be paranoid about anything and everything everyone says and does ✨
(Ignore how long this reply took to make)
Btw, in case you didn't realize, our post was not an "attack" or hate to you. We are also autistic (and adhd).
We get where you are coming from, and we once again mostly agree with you.
This is coming from beings that don't use therian or otherkin as our labels, btw. We mostly use nonhuman (as well as alterhuman and transspecies).
We also want body mods and social transition in more than just wearing "gear." (We can't get that yet, just as we can't get that with us being under the trans umbrella cause of our family). And we would love to see social transition talked about way more as well!
We just also wanted to point at that while species transition isn't all about gear, that it also can be about gear for some.
(We do, in a way, consider anything that affirms our gender and species "transitional" to us, although not everyone would. So clothes to us is a way to "transition").
Once again, no hate to op. Sorry if it ever came off that way.
- Shay 🐾
just to clarify species transition =/= buy a bunch of stuff off etsy or amazon.
Us when our disabilities disable us.
Like they are called disabilities for a reason.
- Shay 🐾
"you cant use your disabilities an excuse"
there are many reasons why a disability will disable someone. before you call it an excuse, maybe try considering why their disability, visible or invisible, effects their abilities.
We had to get our actual proper medical insurance back recently, ofc it probably won't really be into effect until January, so we still have to wait to actually have it.
We wanna talk to our doctor about seeing if we have some other disorders/disabilities (such as OCD and POTS) before properly trying to contact a service dog training place. We have a place in mind already, hopefully we will be able to go through them.
When we end up contacting the place and they tell us the price and stuff for the training (and getting the prospect/puppy) then we will likely make a go fund me and will make a post about it. But until we know more, we can't really make a go fund me cause we don't know how much we will likely need.
Anyways, we just wanted to make this post to basically share a bit about what's happening in our life rn, so yeah.
- Shay (They/it) 🐾