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This. If I can get this into my head, that would be great
self-improvement should be because you want to improve your quality of life, not because you feel or think you *need* to be better in order to be loved or allowed to live. there's no end goal with self-improvement, it's easy to dig yourself a grave when you don't realize that you're not on a ticking clock to be the 'best version of yourself'. all you need to strive to do is be the version of yourself you are the most happy with. find out what values you find important, what kind of friend do you want to be, how do you want to react to things. what are things that would improve the way you go about life? what would make life easier, better and more enjoyable for you?
are you going to do it in 2025?
anything that you focus your mind onto is achievable because you are capable of anything!
so plan for this year. think of the things that you want to do, that you need to do, that will help you become the highest version of yourself. do the things without being affected by being lazy for just a day! you are more than your mood!
this is your era. 2025 is going to be your year. so act like it. make your younger self proud.
don’t do the same things year after year because if you put in the effort, you WILL see results. there isn’t anything stopping you. so get after it.
let 2025 be the year that you actually believe this. sending good vibes and positivity your way <3
listen to your own inner voice and set boundaries!! your mental and emotional well-being need to be protected!! when you compromise your own values and goals to accommodate the needs and expectations of others, you are sacrificing your own needs and happiness. even if it means disappointing others or standing up against criticism, being assertive and prioritizing your own needs matters! a lot!
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8 Ways For Highly Sensitive People to Break Free From Loneliness
October 31, 2019
Although it has taken me some time to write this article, I have been actively experimenting with techniques to break free from the loneliness I discussed in my last article.
I have recently discovered that loneliness can be temporary or it may be complex and chronic in nature. I am also realizing there is no quick and easy fix to my chronic sense of loneliness.
I do not believe one is hopeless in such a situation, as the healing process requires time and patience to overcome this obstacle.
I know many highly sensitive people can relate to my experience with loneliness. Therefore, I would love to share with you eight beneficial coping strategies that are bringing me a sense of relief on my healing path!
8 Ways a Highly Sensitive Person Can Break Free From the Chains of Loneliness and Gain a Sense of Connection!
1. Awareness
Being aware that you are lonely, rather than simply embracing solitude can be the first step to addressing an issue with loneliness. Having awareness about your vulnerabilities such as being HSP, experiencing grief, trauma, etc... It is also important to be aware that you are not alone and that there are others out there going through similar experiences. There truly is an abundance of support and like minded people in the world if you are willing to receive it!
2. Healing Work
Many highly sensitive people come from backgrounds filled with complex trauma or abuse that may have impacted the body mind and spirit of these sensitive souls. Therefore, an integrative approach may be beneficial in order to address the various underlying aspects that lead to a chronic sense of loneliness. For example, tending to one's physical, mental, and spiritual needs. Healing modalities may range from counseling, addiction recovery, therapy, support groups, alternative methods, and general health care. It may also require a degree of patience along with vigilance during the healing process and I know it is not an easy path (but worth it!)
3. Make Connection a Priority and Build It Into a Routine.
An excellent way to integrate a sense of connection with routine, is by starting small and increasing socialization gradually. Since everyone has different personal and social needs, increasing one's sense of connection may look different from person to person. This may simply include going out for a walk, a friendly greeting to another person, connecting with the essence of nature, blocking out a specific time to spend with a close friend regularly. I personally find elements of comfort to be helpful( i.e. person, place, object, or existing routine), while transitioning to a new routine. As you gradually experiment with this concept, observe how each activity makes you feel to track progress over time. Over time, you can gain momentum and see how far you have come!
4. Seek Out Connections With Like Minded People and Value Existing Connections
As highly sensitive people, we tend to value deep connections and prefer depth over breadth in relationships rather than quantity. I know this can lead to feelings of loneliness and frustration for HSPs. I do believe it to be few and far between to find such connections but they do exist! Although it is rare, many of us have experienced these connections at some point in our lives and I am extremely grateful for those special connections as many people may never experience this in a lifetime!
Seeking out connections with like minded people can be comforting. You will also find that many others are going through similar experiences and not only need support but want to be supportive as well. By being available and of service to others, one can experience a sense of relief as well as connections.
5. Lower Expectations With Others
One thing I have observed about myself,(and many people in general) is a tendency to have unrealistic expectations about people without considering people's differences. I am learning that everyone approaches and processes situations differently, particularly in comparison to highly sensitive people. I also find that a great number of people in this day in age are not truly capable or available for healthy intimacy. Therefore, I realize the unnecessary struggle of taking things as personally.
6. Grounding
There are a variety of ways to ground or center one's self.I find t connecting with nature to have profound effects, particularly after my recent visit to Alaska( ie. witnessing the beautiful scenery such as the northern lights). This can be a great way to not only embrace the sensory experience but escape from a ruminating mind. Exercises such as deep breathing, mindfulness meditation, or shielding energy with an imaginary white light or bubble can create a similar grounding effect.
Lastly, striving for a sense of autonomy and breaking free from entanglements/relationships that create energetic codependency can help protect a person's energy. Taking a walk and connecting with nature can also be a helpful technique to switch from a ruminating mind into the senses.
7. Busy Your Schedule Doing What You Love
Volunteer for a cause that you value or participate in a hobby such as a creative project you are passionate about. I find that by immersing myself in these activities, I experience a sense of connection, purpose, and being part of something greater than myself and my struggles.
8.Connect With Yourself and Love Yourself Unconditionally
This can also be a great opportunity to embrace solitude and experience the oneness with life!
Reexamine old beliefs about yourself or past experiences and see if it is an obstacle from putting yourself out there into the world. Many times we believe lies about ourselves and miss the opportunities to reach our potentials and create our dream lives as a result of false self beliefs.
Learning to have self compassion and acceptance can be a great way to connect with yourself and love yourself unconditionally. I know this can take time and it can be rough at times but please remember that feelings are not always facts and whatever you are going through will pass. Filling yourself with love and acceptance create self sufficiency. With this self sufficiency, I believe one can more easily love and connect with others as well as extend that love to others with a fuller love tank!
Thank you for letting me share about my experience with loneliness and the lessons I have learned regarding this issue! There truly can be so much more to this than simply needing to be around people as it is often more about experiencing healing and connection! How do you cope with loneliness or experience connection?
With Love,
Dahlia
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Surviving Other People’s Shit: 10 Self Compassionate “I” Existence Affirmations to Get Out and Stay Out of Manipulative Control.
1 - I am free to personally like and dislike whoever it is that I choose, regardless of what other people think.
2 - I do not have to tolerate or accept repeated abusive behaviour in my life based on the abusers state of mind or personal well being.
3 - There are no rules when it comes to who I must, and who I must not allow in my personal space, except for my own.
4 - As an independent adult or young adult, I understand that what I do in my personal life, does not have to be based on what another person insists that I do, or else there will be consequences.
5 - I am allowed to say no.
6 - I am free to choose which invites to attend or not attend.
7 - I might have accepted a gift, but this does not bind me to the givers will.
8 - I can choose to have different beliefs and values than others, and still get along in the world.
9 - I am beautiful, no matter what they say (thank you xtina :))
10 - I am free to have whatever feelings that I have in any given moment, and pledge to manage these feelings in the safest, best possible way that supports the ultimate value of my existence.
Stay excellent :)
«Центрация, прийти в себя за 40 секунд» - Это инструмент для гармонизации внутреннего состояния.
Как часто мы живем в спешке, интернет и жизнь, все становится слишком скоростным, это так же может быть связано с работой, семьей, друзьями и социальной активностью. Иногда мы не успеваем за всеми своими делами и наше эмоциональное состояние начинает нести нас на своих волнах. В такие моменты нам нужно быстро прийти в ресурсное, сильное и гармоничное состояние. Именно для этого было создано 5 видео роликов, соответствующих различным циркадным ритмам.
В каждом из этих видео определенные аудио частоты и визуально-цветовые спектры, чтобы помочь вам выбрать подходящий ролик для вашего настроения и времени суток. РАССВЕТ, ПОЛДЕНЬ, ВЕЧЕР, НОЧЬ и ГЛУБОКАЯ НОЧЬ - в каждом из этих времен мы можем настроить свою энергию на ступень сопряженную с циркадным ритмом. Например, утренний ролик с более высокими частотами и заряжен цветами солнца - дает возможность откалибровать день с энергией и уверенностью. А вечером, теплые приглушенные и низкие частоты могут помочь успокоить наш разум и подготовить наш организм к отдыху.
Для качественной гармонизации внутреннего состояния в видео используется техника центрации, одного качественного глубокого вдоха задержки дыхания и выдоха.
Центрирование позволяет сосредоточиться, успокоиться и прийти в гармонию с окружающим миром. Центрирование - это процесс настройки энергии и концентрации на своих целях. Техника центрации позволяет быстро и эффективно прийти в себя (к себе настоящему) в течение всего 40 секунд.
Таким образом, ролики помогают быстро и легко прийти в гармонию, сосредоточение и силу в любое время суток. Это простой и удобный способ обрести внутреннюю гармонию и осознаться за считанные секунды. Почувствовать силу и уверенность в любой ситуации.
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