I Wonder If Anyone At Work Knows That I Wear Or Hears The Crinkle When I Move Around. I Would Like To

I received the following instructions to follow:

1. Dress embarrassingly in a rubber suit

2. Take pictures and masturbate

3. Upload them to the Tumblr!

Diaper Discipline when you struggle with the AB part of your partner’s desires

Two things I’ll highlight straight away are:

1. Most people who like to wear or be forced to wear diapers have a desire to incorporate other adult baby elements. The base level varies by person but I’ve noticed that most people trend towards being more AB over time.


2. Lots of partners of ABDL’s struggle with the AB part more than the diaper part. Exactly why is hard to know but I feel most commonly it’s to do with it making it feel too close to being a real baby. They struggle to separate Adult Baby from Baby in their minds.

So how do you reconcile this difference if your ABDL partner wants to incorporate more babyish elements and you as their partner struggle most with those elements.

Before I give some options I want to first get you to remember one of the key elements of successful diaper discipline, it has to be more than they want and it sometimes shouldn’t be fun for them.

So if they want a bit of babying and you don’t like that part how can you give them more than they want to fulfil the control element they crave?

Babying can go from themed diapers to having a full nursery room in your home. At a minimum even if you don’t like babying elements I think you do have to embrace ABDL diapers, ABDL onesies and some sort of diaper changing area. I would then highly recommend you experiment (with an open mind) with pacifiers and bottles before progressing onto more babyish activities.

However if their babyish diapers, onesies and the changing mat at the end of your bed are your limit what can you do…

I feel the answer is to compensate for not fulfilling this element of their desire with stricter diaper rules and also adding in other elements of control.

So I’d seriously consider returning them to diapers full time with the diaper discipline focus them being treated as both bladder and bowel incontinent.

Keep exceptions to a minimum and add humiliation elements without exposing them or others. Tease them about being messy, don’t let them change straight away and force them to use their diapers using laxatives and suppositories.

Also to further play to the control aspect, experiment by combining diapers with chastity, bondage or spankings.

Chastity goes great with diapers and can also be good for male partners in preventing post-orgasm lows.

Bondage makes for great punishments especially when combined with laxatives. You can also use a low level on bondage on a daily basis by using a locking diaper cover or securing your partner to their work desk at home.

Spanking is something a lot of people enjoy and can be used on a maintenance basis (they’ve done nothing specific wrong) or as a punishment for an action.

Finally checking and changing them doesn’t have to be a babyish activity. You can adopt the persona of them being incontinent and you’re caring for them, or if you have a more dom streak this is a way you’re directly controlling them. But them losing the ability to change themselves is a very strong tool you should use.

Wants.

I want to be padded in super thick, poofy padding.

I want to be caged, and a vibrating plug inserted in me.

I want to be constantly reminded to drink lots of water so I can have lots of soggy accidents.

I want to have my padding rubbed, poked, prodded, and stroked.

I want to be reminded how I’m just a little baby, who has no control, will have constant accidents, and can do nothing about it.

I want to be restrained, unable to escape, vulnerable, embarrassed, and humiliated to the point that I’m super blushy.

I want to be forced to take an enema. Full and desperate, trying to hold back the inevitble mess that will end up in my crinkles.

I want to be teased about how I’m a little ‘tinker, while having the mess squished around. Yet another reminder that I’m such a baby. Big kids don’t wear diapers, or make messes in them.

I want to be dressed up in a girly outfit, full diaper exposed, and forced to suck on a cute padded boy’s “special pacifier”.

I want to be teased, having a magic wand buzzing up and down my full padding.

These thoughts will always have me squirming in my seat. The shit that I think about early Tuesday morning, whilst at work. o.o

A very common theme we’re hearing from partners on both sides of the relationship is the challenge of going 24/7 or even just trying to make diaper wearing the default.

We experienced this too so have put together a list of the many ways we’ve experienced exceptions to wearing/using diapers happening and how to overcome them.

Preventing exceptions with 24/7 and no toilet rules

Keeping your partner in diapers 24/7 and banning the use of the toilet sounds simple and clean-cut in theory but the reality is day-to-day life throws up lots of exceptions and inconveniences which make sticking to this hard.

Sticking to it as closely as possible is critical though as one exception leads to another and then extremely quickly it all falls apart. So here are some common challenges you might get and how to deal with them.

I need a #2 but I’ve just changed into a fresh diaper

Unfortunately your partner should have gone in their last diaper and if they need to go now then they have to just use their clean one. Wasting clean diapers shouldn’t be encouraged so hold off changing them for at least 2 hours.


I’m going for a run / playing sport

Very active sports and running is challenging while diapered but not impossible. We’d recommend allowing them to wear a thin breathable diaper or a pull-up for the duration. Once finished, they should be straight back into a proper diaper, don’t allow this to be a way for them to get extended time out of diapers.


We’re going out and changing will be inconvenient

Being out of the house or on a day trip is not an excuse for them to be out of diapers. Pack a diaper bag and if you think changing will be hard dress them in a thick diaper for the day. Also encourage them to use their diaper for a #2 before you leave.
Help give them confidence by picking out clothes which hide their diaper well and telling them how you can’t even tell (even if that’s a slight lie).

We’re going to be at the beach/pool all day

If they’re going to be primarily in the water then dress them in a swim diaper. If it will be sun bathing with an occasional swim, then dress them in a disposal diaper with refastenable tapes which will allow it to be taken off easily for them to change into a swim diaper and back again afterwards.


I don’t have time to check / change you as much today

Easy solution = thick diapers + booster if required. These will hold them for 6+ hours without you or them having to do a change. Also allow them to change themselves by asking for permission over a message first if you can’t change them yourself.

They’re not feeling well

When your partner is ill, then diapers should still be insisted upon. Use thick diapers and plastic pants to avoid leaks and change them / let them change more often to avoid rashes.


Someone might notice

If your going for a meal or drinks with friends or any other activity where they’ll be self-conscious about being noticed, still insist on a diaper but do the following to help. Let them wear a thiner medical diaper, have them wear a plain onesie and help them pick out clothes which hide the diaper well. Finally make sure to tell them that you can’t tell and give reassurance.
Over time as their confidence builds switch to thicker diapers.

What if it smells?

You might be out of the house, on vacation or travelling when they have the need to go #2. It would be easier for everyone just to let them use a toilet but you must avoid this. 
Instead tell them that they have to use their diaper but it’s ok and that’s what they’re for. Make arrangements for them to be able to change afterwards but this doesn’t need to be immediately.
Using internal deodorant tablets like Devrom can reduce the smell significantly so we recommend using these more aggressively around vacations, day trips or travel where messy diapers in public is a more likely situation.

Extending time around exceptions

You might allow diaper free exceptions for work or around family but the danger is this extends for long periods either side. Make sure that after returning from work you’re there to diaper them or if you’re not free, leave a diaper out with instructions for them to change into it straight away.
Or if say you’re at a family event and staying overnight, still change them into a diaper for bedtime.
If you’re traveling back from a family event and the travel time is more than an hour stop at the first opportunity and have him get diapered.


I’m out of diapers

It sounds obvious but accidentally running out of diapers can cause a big gap in their wearing as you really don’t want to have to switch to store diapers.
Make sure to keep track of your diaper stock and I’d recommend always having a 1 month buffer of diapers available.
The easiest time to run out is when away from home or on vacation. Make sure to plan how many you’ll need and then add a good buffer of extra diapers.

Potty Training

•

You should have to get recertified in potty training every 2 years to keep up with advancements in the field

•

Women pretty much only want to date a guy who is potty trained

Always talking about getting coffee like it's nothing?

•

I went through potty training almost 30 years ago. You really expect me to remember any of that?

•

Normal underwear is the black belt of potty training

•

Some people claim to be potty trained. But I don’t think it’s something that you can ever truly fully attain. I believe it’s an ongoing process, a endless struggle for perfection. A lifelong journey.

•

I studied potty training under Bob and Sara Feldman in the 90's, but I dropped out when I realized they just taught the typical practices. Seemed like they didn't really have anything interesting or innovative to say in the space

•

I dropped out of formal potty training to focus on more hands-on pooping

•

My buddy was potty trained by his parents. So I asked if his parents would be down to teach me, and he said no!!!

Wow… Their techniques must be a closely guarded family secret.

•

I’m living proof that you can get potty trained or lose your virginity in any order. Probably to be honest - I'm getting pretty close I think. I’ve got some irons in the fire for both

•

Public restrooms don’t mean anything as a service unless they also offer public potty training lessons. You expect me to just know what to do in there?

•

Diapers are so expensive because capitalism seeks to punish those who aren’t potty trained

•

Date: I’m a sapiosexual. I’m sexually attracted to intelligence

Me: I tighten my collar and lean in oh yeah, is that so? Well, I actually just so happen to be potty trained. That’s right… these are big boy pants 😏👖

Date: waiter, check please

Me: Ope 😳 might have spoke too soon. I think I just went potty

•

When I drink a coffee and then leave the house too soon, that's a choreographed potty dance

•

When a child is doing the potty dance, it's like. Cope much?

•

I always take some molly with my laxatives. I'm trying to get lost in the potty dance

•

I found another friend

Reblog If…

This Saturday’s Baby Day

Yesterday I decided it would be good for my baby to have what we call a “Baby Day”. We talk about these a bit on our website but I thought you all might enjoy hearing what one looked like for us which was prompted by one of our Tumblr friends asking about it anyway.

The quick intro to a Baby Day is it’s a full 24 hour period where he is treated nearly exactly like a baby. We find they are great for stress relief and easy to do on a free weekend day every month or so. I decide when they happen so they’re always a surprise for him and although they’re quite a lot of work for me, I do find it sort of fun having to care for him and play more of a real mommy role for a day.

So for us we always start it in the morning where I tell him I’ve decided he’s getting a baby day today. He woke up at around 10am so I told him and he said ok (he can object but only if he has a good reason to why it’s not possible). He knows the rules of a baby day now so we didn’t need to go through them but for your benefit the key elements are:

- Thick ABDL diapers for the next 24/7

- No toilet usage (normal for him anyway)

- No walking or talking with adult words

- Baby clothes & pacifier in most of the time

- I’ll take care of his every need (bottles to drink, meals, checks, changes, etc)

I let him take off his night diaper and go for a shower and when he returns I’m ready with a little kings diaper. I change him into that and dress him in a cute dino onesie. His hands go into locking padded mittens and today he also gets spiked training booties making sure he has to crawl.

Finally he gets 2 ducolax tablets, his first bottle of the day containing milk, and a pacifier. This is a normal adult sized one but if I find him without it in we do have a gag version as well. I like using ducolax tablets on baby days as we find the impact and timing of them varies so unlike suppositories it’s less predictable and more a babylike loss of control.

He then crawls into our living room and I put the TV on for him. It’s kids tv for him but as he’s not very regressive it’s normally more elementary/tween tv which I allow. I also leave another bottle of water with him which he must drink by lunchtime (1pm).

I leave him be and catch up on some laundry (boring I know). At lunch I call him through to the kitchen, help him onto a chair and place a bib around his neck. This meal is going to be baby food and I feed it to him just like a baby, it’s actually kind of fun especially making him a bit messy and teasing him. He doesn’t enjoy it so after 2-3 pouches we’re done. He must also finish a whole bottle of water before he can leave.

After lunch I do a diaper check and it’s wet but nowhere near capacity. He returns to the living room but I do allow him 3 hours of adult game time on his playstation. So the mittens come off so he can do this. I set a timer on my phone for 1 hour and use this to remind me to go check him. By around 3:30 it’s time for a change as I’m not sure his diaper will last another hour.

We have a dedicated changing table but as it’s a crawl away and he’s just wet I change him on the living room floor. He gets a new bottle of water and has 1 hour of gaming left so I leave him to that.

At 4:30 I come through and tell him it’s time for his afternoon nap. He has a crib which we use for this and Segufix restraints which I use to secure him in place. Lights out for the next hour, I’m not sure if he sleeps but when I return I can tell that the ducolax have been working 😂

I check his diaper even though it’s not required and unlock him from the crib. He uses Devrom tablets so the smell isn’t very bad but it is noticeable so I add some plastic pants over his diapers. We have a rule that he has to stay in filled diapers for 1 hour after I detect it which is especially important after ducolax as often there can be a few waves 💩

TV is on again but this time I watch as well, it’s amazingly engaging. He’s on the floor and I do hear him “use” his diaper some more 🙈

It’s probably about 6pm now and it’s time to freshen him up. It’s over to the changing table this time and I get to work. His diaper is well used but I have disposable gloves and in less than 5 minutes he’s completely clean and into a dry Little Kings.

I leave him to his own devices while I make the evening meal. This time he still has the bib and I feed him but it’s adult food. I’m eating as well so this time it’s less playful so mine doesn’t get too cold.

After dinner we watch some Netflix shows together, during which I feed him a bottle of milk, before it’s his bedtime at 10pm. Diaper check reveals a fairly wet diaper and I’m 50:50 about changing him but instead opt to just add a cloth diaper cover and plastic pants on top. He’s again restrained in the crib and I go back to watching TV.

I check on him at about 1am and he’s fast asleep.

The next morning I get up early around 7:30am and go through and wake him up. On baby days I expect him to be messy in the mornings but he’s not. By releasing the straps on one side I get him to spin over exposing his diaper bum. Pulling down the diaper I can insert a suppository (using a disposable glove) before I secure him back in the crib.

I read my book in bed and speak to a few people on here before letting him out at 10am, completing the full 24 hours.

And that is a baby day, it sounds like a lot of effort but I feel like I still get most of my day free, I enjoy caring for him and they’re good for his mental health so overall it’s well worth it.

We would love to hear in the comments if any of you also have baby days with your partners and what you do/don’t do differently?

Victorian Vintage Vinyl Bloomers with Elastic Waist and Ruffles