u survive literally every single event in your life & still every time a new event happens you feel like this is the event that will kill you and that you will never move on from but actually you will continue to survive like you always have bc u have a 100% win rate of surviving events. btw
Hello March <3
Humble urself and start w that 30 minutes of recreational reading a day. Go from there. Don’t overwhelm urself w a hefty tbr after a long reading slump
Ask for help. Who cares if it takes a village
Try to get things done in the morning. Then phone
It’s not as hard as you think it is
Be realistic about your limits. You will sacrifice some things in favor of other things. That is okay. Priorities are a revolving door and everything will get its turn
You’re at the beginning of your life. Calm down about doing everything at once
Hour by hour schedules have saved your life. Go back to them
People don’t ask for ur opinion before making decisions. Stop being so fucking concerned w what they think of yours
The truest cliche is sacrificing momentary comfort for long term gains. Sorry
Aim for perfection - don’t expect it off the get go. Perfection is a staircase. You will get there, or at least as close as u can, but you have to start somewhere. One chapter, one workout, one friend you’re consistent texting… then you go from there. Not everything has to be fixed at once
The only guaranteed time is now and what you do with it
Comparison is easily the most useless thing in the world
Green tea at sundown will make u feel better
Switching up your plan—your study plan, your timeline, your anything—is perfectly fine. But don’t use that as an excuse to not stick the landing
Ask if something/someone elevates your life—but ask if you’re also an asset to theirs. Survey others but survey yourself as well. Don’t be too hard on yourself but don’t coddle yourself
Just lock in tbh. Whatever you’re worried about u can take care of later. Choose 3 top things to focus on and own them. Accept other things might take a backseat as a result
Take piano practice as seriously as u do ur stem studies
You can fit a lot in w time management
Taking it one day at a time will save ur life
You can’t change it? Don’t worry about it. Most things are not a damning sentence. Pivot to another opportunity just as if not more lucrative
Intergenerational friendships:)
No shame in trying!!!! And also no one cares that much
Trust the process. It will happen w intention and incremental changes
Sit in the sun and practice thought stopping rituals about it
Embrace not over complicating things. Your therapist is good for u bc she does not indulge ur need to unnecessarily intellectualize/overthink things. She knows its not serving u anything and is just a distraction
hi, a lot of you need a perspective reset
the average human lifespan globally is 70+ years
taking the threshold of adulthood as 18, you are likely to spend at least 52 years as a fully grown adult
at the age of 30 you have lived less than one quarter of your adult life (12/52 years)
'middle age' is typically considered to be between 45-65
it is extremely common to switch careers, start new relationships, emigrate, go to college for the first or second time, or make other life-changing decisions in middle age
it's wild that I even have to spell it out, but older adults (60+) still have social lives and hobbies and interests.
you can still date when you get old. you can still fuck. you can still learn new skills, be fashionable, be competitive. you can still gossip, you can still travel, you can still read. you can still transition. you can still come out.
young doesn't mean peaked. you're inexperienced in your 20s! you're still learning and practicing! you're developing social skills and muscle memory that will last decades!
there are a million things to do in the world, and they don't vanish overnight because an imaginary number gets too big
Dance as an act of rebellion. Dance as an act of joy.
Nha Fala (2002)
One thing that helped me in life is like realizing that everybody else gets away with being ugly. Everybody else gets away with confronting people. Everybody else gets away with accidentally bothering people. Don’t worry about anything ever lol
maybe if you bundled yourself up and went for a walk out in the cold then came back inside with rosy cheeks and cool skin and warmed yourself up with a nice warm cup of herbal tea with honey maybe then you'd calm down
You must always be yourself no matter what the price. It is the highest form of morality. We should both try to live it. You’ve got to always keep your heart and mind open. You can disguise your emotions you can even numb them and finally you can paralyze them. And that is tragic. Our emotions are the only clues to our identity. The only true meaning in life is passion. The passion to learn, to paint, to love etc. Don’t dare destroy your passion for the sake of others. When you do you’ve lost the beauty of life and that’s what a sin is. By robbing yourself of your very reason to exist you have cheated. You must laugh when you must laugh, you must weep when you must weep, and you must love when you must love.
– Candy Darling, Candy Darling: Memoirs of an Andy Warhol Superstar
Whats something interesting you learned this year?
That you should live each moment of your life as if it were eternally there, fixed in memory, in another dimension. Not as if it were fleeting. I say this because time is not a concept, time is what we are. Even butterflies are made of time. Time is the universe. But humanity has divided time into objects, concepts, and categories. We have invented clocks, calendars, pendulums, etc all so that we can grasp our own existence. The month, the hour, the minute, the second, it’s all so comforting because it is our way of participating in the universe. But the future does not happen, the past has not happened. Everything is here. Right now. And the body knows it.